Awards Assembly / Last Day of School

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Awards Assembly / Last Day of School
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Wed, 06-11-2003 - 8:06pm
Well, I have to say, I'm glad the year is over, and Kevin's career in elementary school as well. Not that I want him growing up, going to middle school, and all that ... and I'M not ready for it, although he probably is. I'm just so OVER that school. (Too bad #2 has another 4 years, sigh!) Anyway, today was the Awards Assembly, and I was planning on taking off from work to attend. I didn't expect Kevin would be getting anything, but I was pretty sure his perfect attendance would get recognition. (Now, I know that a lot of people here don't appreciate the significance of this, but for him, it IS a big deal. Kevin had a lot of health issues as a baby, and really built his resistance, so honestly, he is almost never sick. And, I've emphasized to him that school is his #1 priority ... so if he stays up late at night, or has a late baseball game, he still has to get up in the a.m. I am NOT one of those mothers who send their kid to school with 104 fever for 15 min ... long enough to get logged in AND infect the class, then take them home. Kevin has several behavioral issues which sometimes make getting him out of bed and moving in the morning a big accomplishment. The fact that he's not missed a day of school since entering public school IS a big deal. And, because he really screwed up academically this year ... first year not making the honor roll at all ... the attendance thing was signficiant to him.)

Anyway ... I told Kevin this a.m. that I would be there, and he asked "did they call you?" So, I'm curious as to WHO was to call. He told me that they were only giving out 30 awards in total, and the kids didn't know WHO was getting any, but the school was going to call the parents to let them know (but ask them to keep it a secret) so they could be there if they wanted to. So, I felt horrible, but told Kevin that they didn't call, and I was sorry, but it looked like he wasn't getting an award. He really looked crushed. (Kevin, because of his problems, really needs some praise and recognition and kudos, and it really broke my heart. I 'know' how hard he worked for this.)

So, when I got to work, I called the school just to be sure there wasn't any misunderstanding, but they confirmed that NO there would be no award for perfect attendance and NO if we weren't called, our child wouldn't be getting an award. Needless to say, I didn't go to the ceremony.

Well, Kevin came home AND he had a certificate for his perfect attendance! Geesh. So, he got recognized (and I was really pleased because I was going to go and get him something special for that!) but I didn't get to see it. This is SOOOOOO typical of their school, but it really bothers me. As a working mom, I can't always make it to everything, but do my best to put the kids first. In this case, I feel like I blew it ... but I really wanted to be there.

Argh!

Well, school is over ... and if I had an option for #2, I'd move her.

Nancy

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Fri, 06-13-2003 - 7:11am
Thanks Janet. That's the problem. I don't always get to go to things because of work, although I do my best to be flexible. But, when I 'could' have been there and didn't go because of false info (especially when I made sure to call and ask) ... and this was the LAST event of his elementary school career ... well, it just kills me.

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Fri, 06-13-2003 - 7:06am
No, they passed it out at the assembly. Kevin told me in the a.m. that they CALLED the parents of the kids that were getting awards. I called the school to confirm that, and they said that "yes, they called the parents ... no, your child will not be getting an award if you weren't called ... and no, they were not giving out anything for perfect attendance." And, part of me wants to call the school and raise a little hell, but I still have kid #2 there, and don't want to ruffle any feathers too much and risk having her get the backlash.

Sigh!

Nancy

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Fri, 06-13-2003 - 7:04am
I don't disagree ... I know of mom's that have sent their kids to school with 104 degree fever and throwing up, just for 10 min., so they can get marked 'in' and keep their perfect attendance. THAT is not teaching the kids anything ... other than the health of other kids is less important that the individual child and a piece of paper at the end of the year. AND, that also diminishes from the real 'perfect attendance' making those who really earn it fall into the same category as the others ... and it seems like no big deal when, in fact, to some, it really was an effort. I guess I just hope that somehow my kids are learning that when they're older and having to work, they will have in them instilled a sense of priority and commitment. Guess time will tell.

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Thu, 06-12-2003 - 9:16am
I'm sure you're so glad for Kevin that he was recognized for his perfect attendence, and the effort he made. It is really a shame the school messed up on informing you. As a usually-working mother (currently unemployed :-( I totally understand the steps you took, and I would have done the same. We can't be mind readers, but it is SO frustrating.

Happy summer vacation!

Janet

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Thu, 06-12-2003 - 8:05am
Congratulations to Kevin! I hope they both enjoy their summer!

Did he get the award at the ceremony or did they wait and pass them out in class maybe? If he did get it at the ceremony then it really stinks that they lied to you! They never invite parents to the award ceremony here. It's on the calendar but it's never one of those things that we get a letter saying we are welcome to. I went to both this year just in case the kids got something. There were maybe 20 parents there each day, which is sad!

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Wed, 06-11-2003 - 9:49pm
Good for Kevin for being there every day!--especially since this is a difficult area for him. It's so great that you are stressing the importance of attending whenever it's physically possible. Being tired or not feeling like it aren't good enough reasons to miss! I don't mean to down the ones who are legitimately at school. It is an important thing to have them there every day that it is possible. Both of my kids have managed to have at least one year that they had perfect attendance. They just both have usually ended up with at least one illness each year that keeps them out of school. And at our school it was so obvious that the one kid had been sick because he was throwing up the entire day on our field trip. We all felt bad for him, but I guess we were too far from home (and visiting several different locations within the city) to call his parents and have them take him home.

Sorry that your school isn't better about keeping the parents informed. At least he knows that you wanted to be there and you would have if they would have let you know what they were planning.

Have a great summer! I hope middle school will be great for Kevin (and all the rest of us moving on next year)!

Janet