Back again for an update

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Registered: 10-29-2003
Back again for an update
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 2:41pm
Hello all,

I posted a message about 3 weeks ago (I think it was 3 weeks). Anyways, it was about my new BF getting custody of his 11 year old daughter and my need to know how to handle the situation and exactly what an 11 year old is like these days. I was way into horses and was sort of a late bloomer until I turned 16. hahaha!

Anyways, just thought I'd send out an update. After posting that message the courts decided that custody would remain with the mother until she was 13 years old, then she could decide who she wanted to live with. He would get every other weekend and some holidays and a few weeks when she's out of school. Last weekend was the first weekend he had her. I was completely prepared to not see him and let them have the weekend to themselves, however he wasn't going to have it that way. He picked her up on Friday and they spent that whole afternoon and night together. Saturday he brought her out to play with the horses and to his surprise after learning to halter, lead and groom the horse she wanted to ride. Saturday night we all had dinner and went for ice cream. Sunday after spending the morning riding again, we went to see the new Harry Potter movie and then he took her home.

All in all it was a very good weekend. She and I talked alot while riding and she acted like she's known me for her whole life. It was rather funny because I was so nervous and she was totally normal and at ease with the situation. It kind of threw me off. hahaha! My BF told me that one the way home she said that she wanted to be like me when she grew up. Very shocking to hear, but wonderful at the same time. I do know that if this relationship does go somewhere serious there will be rough patches, but I think that I'll get through them and things will workout.

Thanks for reading and I look forward to becoming a regular here.


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Registered: 06-08-2004
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 2:55pm

Wonderful news!!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 8:53pm
Thank you for the update! I'm glad the first visit went so well.


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Registered: 12-17-2003
Mon, 06-14-2004 - 2:48pm
I'm sorry to hear that he didn't get custody of his daughter, but it sounds like the weekend went wonderfully!