Being Outside/Crossing Streets/Etc.
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|Mon, 05-10-2004 - 7:34pm|
I am new here. I have been reading some posts and looking for an answer to my question but couldn't find it.
Anyway, I have a 9 year old son, gonna be 10 the beginning of August. We live on a quiet street, and always have, since my son was about 6 months old. The problem is, there are absolutely no kids on the block. There never has been. He has some friends in school but none that live close by. He does have one friend, however, who is in his class and lives a few blocks away but has to cross a busy avenue to get to our house. But, he has been to our house before. And, once even showed up unannounced on his scooter. This kid even walks to and from school by himself every day (also needs to cross a busy avenue).
I always allowed my son to go out front to play by himself since he was about 7/8. Just recently we allowed him to take his bike out without myself or my husband out there with him. And finally, just last week I gave him permission to actually ride his bike or scooter around the block without us being out there with him. He was so excited. He is very trustworthy and very smart.
Now, just today 4 girls from his school, all in 3rd grade (he's in 4th) were riding past our house today while he was outside on his scooter. I was wondering what they were doing in our area since they don't live close by. Yet, here they were, all 3rd graders, driving around the neighborhood on their bikes. Naturally they stopped by when they saw my son.
When this happened it made me stop to think: how old should my son should be before I allow him to cross the streets on his own? I have been sitting here for hours trying to think of how old I was before I was allowed but am coming up with nothing. My husband doesn't remember how old he was either. I want to protect my son but at the same time I don't want to baby him either. He has expressed interest in walking to and from school by himself too. But, since I volunteer at the school every day, he walks with me.
So, I guess my questions are: Do you allow your son/daughter to cross streets alone to go around the neighborhood/to friends houses? And, if so, how old were they when you first allowed them to do so? Also, what age do you think is appropriate to be allowed to walk to school alone? From our house to the school it is exactly 6 blocks straight up, then you must make a left and go another 3 blocks. However, two big streets, one an avenue the other just a big two lane street, must be crossed to get there. No crossing guards are on the way. At least not that way to school. Thanks so much for your advice.