Boy/Girl Sleepovers

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Registered: 01-07-2006
Boy/Girl Sleepovers
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Thu, 09-27-2007 - 10:57pm

OK. My daughter will be 10 in about a month.

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 12:10am
Absolutely!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 7:20am
I think you did the right thing. Although nothing would happen, they are getting to the age where its inappropriate. I would have offered the same thing, she can go for the evening, come home to sleep and go back for breakfast. Sucks from her perspective I'm sure but its up to us to make the tough decisions.

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 10:25am

I totally agree with you.

Let me add to that. If it were my dd, and i had allowed it before, my dd would ask more questions. I would offer a better explanation to her as to why its not appropriate. Maybe a sit down talk as to why it is different now. Help her to understand where your coming from. Just no because i said so is not really fair for her to get unless she understands where you are coming from. try to explain to her your thoughts and feelings. It might make the "tantrum on her side" see it from a different point of view .

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 3:46pm
You are absolutely right in your thinking!

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Registered: 04-26-2007
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 4:53pm
You are right. And we really don't know for sure "nothing would happen."
I think moms need to not worry quite so much if our kids' are mad at us when we are trying to do the right thing.
I don't allow boy/girl sleepovers.
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Registered: 07-04-2004
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 8:40pm
Guess I'm alone in my disagreement, but I would have let her stay.

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Registered: 08-11-2007
Sat, 09-29-2007 - 9:03pm
I agree with you!Although since you have allowed it in the past you do owe your dd an exolaination,as to why it is no longer going to be ok.I guess wit us it has never been an issue,I never would have allowed a boy/girl sleep over,even in preschool,not becasue anything would happen,just because girls don't stay at boys houses and viceversa.Plus once you get to be 10 or 11 it can get alittle dicey.There was a boy in my dd 4th grade class who was held back at least twice and he made my dd a little uncomfortable.She actually called him a pervert when she was 9.>i think the idea you gave her is great,just explain your thinking to her.

Laura


mom to Gabrielle