bullying

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Registered: 01-09-2008
bullying
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Thu, 01-10-2008 - 9:34am

HI, I would need advice on how to handle the bullying issue

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Registered: 09-01-2006
In reply to: mo4kids07
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 6:22pm

Gosh, I'm sorry your child is having to deal with this. Unfortunately bullying is something they will have to deal with their whole life. I think it's our responsibility to equip our children with


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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: mo4kids07
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 8:35am

Glad you posted this on the board, there are some great ladies here to help you out with suggestions!


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Registered: 03-03-2006
In reply to: mo4kids07
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 4:46pm

Zero tolerance for bullying, at any age. Yes, we do have to deal with bullies our "whole" life. Here is how we tend to deal with them as adults:


first line of defense: inform the bully that their behavior is in appropriate (seldom works, but sometimes clears up anything that was just a misunderstanding to begin with).


second line of defense: remove yourself from the situation. An adult faced with an intolerable bully is likely to change jobs, routines, classes, whatever is necessary to get away from the situation.


third line of defense: summon the authorities. An adult who is being physically assaulted, verbally harrassed or stalked will file a police report and perhaps obtain a restraining order.


Given that this is how adult bullies are generally, handled, I think similar methods should be used in dealing with children/adolescents who engage in bullying. While every child does need to realize that bullies exist in all shapes, sizes and ages, every child who tends towards acting like a bully also needs to realize that such behaviors in adult life are often against the law, either as misdemeanors or felonies.

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Registered: 10-31-2007
In reply to: mo4kids07
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 7:32pm

I am so sorry you are going through this. This kind of thing affects the whole family! I worked in a school system for 10 years. The first thing is you went to the principal, that was good. I want you to start documenting everything that is going on, that is said, who said it




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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: mo4kids07
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 10:18pm
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In reply to: mo4kids07
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 5:05am
If the school she attends is private, are there other schools she could go to instead
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Registered: 01-09-2008
In reply to: mo4kids07
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 9:42am

Hi, thanks to each one of u who has given their input.The follow up,after I spoke to the principal, we spoke to the teacher the

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Registered: 10-31-2007
In reply to: mo4kids07
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 1:09pm

I am very glad things are on the way to being straightened out! You sound like you've gotten things under control. Keep going stay vigilant and keep us posted!



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Registered: 09-01-2006
In reply to: mo4kids07
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 8:14pm
Good to hear that your working things out. Please keep us updated on things. :)

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Registered: 01-09-2008
In reply to: mo4kids07
Fri, 01-18-2008 - 7:08pm

Hi, everyone,