Can anyone recommend a good book?

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Registered: 05-04-2003
Can anyone recommend a good book?
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Sat, 12-27-2003 - 9:39pm
Hi. I haven't been on the boards for a long time, and am new to this list. I am hoping somebody can recommend a good book -- either for me, or for my ten year old son, or both -- about this age/stage. It's disheartening to look at the library, where it seems the teen/preteen years are synonymous with eating disorders, drugs, sex issues, etc..

My DS is only 10, and we're "not there yet", but we are definitely in uncharted territory. He is my oldest (of 3) and as a firstborn myself I recognize a lot of his issues, but I am always wondering whether I am being too hard on him and expecting more than his is capable of at his age -- or whether I am missing my last golden opportunity to "mold his character" (yeah, sure) before he is off on his own.

A little background might help you recommend a book: we are unschoolers, and my kids have never been in school. We are spiritual but not religious. I've been married 13 years, and their dad who is pretty involved in their lives, and we have grandparents nearby. We are into attachment parenting and do not spank, but I am big on rules, logical consequences and taking responsibility for your actions. My 10 year old is academically gifted, which I am afraid makes us forget sometimes that a 10 year old is still a kid...

I miss the good old days when you could pick up a book about what you can expect from a baby/toddler at various ages.. I bet it's wishful thinking to hope there's such a thing for "big kids"...

any ideas?

Thanks in advance...

Kelly

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Sun, 12-28-2003 - 1:16pm
Are you talking about books specific to growing up issues, or just good solid books for the age? If the latter (and a bit of both), I'd go for Avi's 'Crispin and the Cross of Lead' (and many, many other Avi books), or Linda Sue Park's 'A Single Shard', or any of the Harry Potter books. These books involve preteens/teens and the social issues they encounter, although the first two are in previous centuries.

If you're talking about learning about the facts of life, I'd go with something like 'What's Happening to my Body book for Boys'...you might want to read it first.

Sue

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Sun, 12-28-2003 - 5:34pm

Hi Kelly and welcome to the board - we're glad to have you here.

Sherrie Rainbow

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Sun, 12-28-2003 - 8:48pm
Thanks for your response! I'm a potter and we've read the "shard" book, and he's read the "what's happening" book, too. I just need to know what to expect of kids at this age. I've never had one before ;0)

Thanks again.

Yours,

kelly

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Sun, 12-28-2003 - 8:55pm
Thanks, Sherrie! I was pretty sure it was optomistic to hope there was a "how to raise your 10 year old" book. My expectations are sometimes as simple as "do the thing i ask you to do" or "don't wait for me to remind you to (brush your teeth, flush the toilet, pick up yoour dirty clothes, practice piano)...


of course I know husbands who haven't yet mastered that one ;0)

Yours,

Kelly

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Registered: 05-02-2003
Mon, 12-29-2003 - 3:16pm

Kelly,


BTDT!!

Sherrie Rainbow