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Registered: 05-06-2004
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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 3:26am
My name is Anna and I have a 10 yr old DD, 6 1/2 yr old DS and 7 month old DD. My 10 yr old is the one who is making me crazy right now! I don't know if it's just pre-teen hormones or what but I think I'm going to go crazy!! She has a horrible time sleeping (will go to bed at 8:30) and then stay awake in her room reading until 11 or 11:30pm. We have tried everything....lights out at 9pm, door shut, letting her read, taking away priviledges for getting up repeatedly, etc. and nothing seems to work. She has a really hard time winding down. She is a very bright 5th grader, does extremely well in school (although she is quiet and cooperative for her teacher, unlike at home! It's like she's a totally different kid!) and seems well-adjusted socially. But, I am having a hard time dealing with her right now because she is SO emotional. She has always been more sensitive and I have to be careful how I say things to her. Recently, I can't seem to do anything right in her eyes. She swears I love the other two more than her.

You'd think I'd have figured out this parenting thing by now, but she keeps forging ahead into unchartered territory!

Just need to commiserate!

Anna

Seattle, WA

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mjnkmama
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 10:43pm
Hi there! We have a lot in common... I also have a 10 DD and a just turned 7 DS, we also live in Seattle!

We have the same exact problem with our 10 y/o... She is always sneaking her light on to read. She get's grounded for it and loses priveleges.... she may even lose her light bulb next! I understand that she loves to read and is not much of a sleeper but sleep is healthy and she needs it. She is also very emotional lately and cries at the drop of a hat.... I think the emotions are just their bodies changing from little girls into litte women and this will probably continue for the next couple of years. I think it's a very difficult transition and they do not even understand it. I think the best thing to do is keep reassuring her of your love, treat her the same as you do the other two and stick to your bedtime rules, because her emotions are just going to be worse if she gets overly tired.

-Darcy w/ Hayley 10 & Dakota 7

 

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Registered: 12-16-2003
In reply to: mjnkmama
Mon, 10-11-2004 - 8:42am
Hi and welcome. I too have a 10 dd and a 6 yo ds. I understand what you are going through. My rule with bed times is that, if I have trouble getting her up in the morning, then bed time gets moved 15 minutes earlier that night. So, if bed time is 9 pm, then teh next night, lights will go out at 8:45, then still not getting up, then 8:30 the next night. I also have dd read for 1/2 hour before lights out, it seems to help wind her down. It sort of is leading a horse to water, I can't make her sleep, but I can alter the times to give her more time in bed. This method has worked well with both kids.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 06-08-2004
In reply to: mjnkmama
Mon, 10-11-2004 - 1:07pm

Hello and welcome!!

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Registered: 08-20-2003
In reply to: mjnkmama
Tue, 10-12-2004 - 3:20pm

Hi and welcome!


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Registered: 05-06-2004
In reply to: mjnkmama
Wed, 10-13-2004 - 5:14pm
Thanks for the warm welcome! I hope to check in here often. Things are busy with the baby and trying to keep track of everyone's schedule! Do you ever do a roll call to re-introduce everyone?

Anna

DD Mackenzie 6-94

DS Johnathan 2-98

DD Katherine "Katie" 3-04

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Registered: 06-08-2004
In reply to: mjnkmama
Wed, 10-13-2004 - 5:57pm
We haven't had a roll call in ages though I think that's a great idea.