Sean's chore list:
*Keep room relatively neat.*Mom washes clothes and folds them, she's supposed to hang them up and put them in dresser drawers. (This isn't done as neatly as I'd like).*Empty the dishwasher and put the clean dishes away.*Picking up after herself (like putting dirty clothes in the laundry and dirty dishes in the sink or dishwasher).*Keep kitties stocked with food and fresh water.*Runs up and down stairs to fetch things for mom.*Shreds papers for mom (optional, not mandatory, done in spirit of helping the team).
*Main job = do her homework, do it completely, turn it in on time. We've had homework battles for the last several years on this.
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These other chores are when we ask of him, which may be anywhere from once a year to twic monthly - or when I have the patience to hear the complaining and groaning:
1. He cleans the kitchen floor.2. Sweeps out garage3. Dusts family room4. Sweeps rooms I ask5. I had him clean our sunroom windows a couple of weeks ago.6. Helps dh by picking up sticks before dh mows the lawn.7. He clips the ivy that grows out on the driveway. (2-3 times in the summer)8. In fall he helps dh rake the yard for leaves.
That said, some of the things Chris does are:
Feed and water catsclear dishes from tableset tabletake out trash haul in groceriessweep porch and front steps put away laundrypick up toys/books/stuff around the housepick up apples in the back yard so his brother can mow
weekly clean litter box clean her hamster cage keep her room picked up and dusted clean the downstairs bathroom
when needed chores (espeically when she wants money) clean out the car vacuum the house clean the upstairs bathroom do the laundry cook dinner or breakfast (she loves to cook) mow the lawn empty the dishwasher take out the trash weed
Ramona Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!
Daily: Empty dishwasher, set table and help clear it. Keep her own dirty clothes in hamper (well, a laundry basket we keep in her closet) and take it out and bring downstairs about once a week when I happen to be doing laundry. Put her things away that have been left around the house (take them back to her room). Weekly: On Sat mornings clean her room and bathroom (to 'child standards'), sweep the kitchen floor (most of the time, although sometimes I'll do it for her), and clean/organize her shoes (which otherwise tend to sit in a muddy pile by the door - this is Oregon after all!) On garbage night, bring her garbage out from her bedroom and bathroom and 'merge' it with the kitchen garbage (I take it out), and take out the recycling. The next day, bring trash can and recycling bins back into the garage.On laundry day (whenever this happens to be - changes weekly unpredictably!) put away her clean laundry (which I deliver to her room after removing my own items from the basket). On grocery day (just changed to Fridays to adjust to our new after-school activities schedule) help bring stuff into the kitchen and help put it away.
I'm interested in how you all motivate kids to get these chores done? I don't like tying them to payment because I see them just as her contribution to the family (she gets an allowance separately "just for being part of the family", too), but I do usually tie them to specific privileges that allow for natural consequences such as, garbage has to be out before we can start playing games on our "Games and Garbage night" (this also works well to remind me that it is garbage night, since she looks forward to playing games!) On Saturdays, the rule is chores have to be done by 12:30 in order for us to be able to eat and go to the open swim time at the pool an hour later. In fact, this weekend was the first time ever I had to stick to the rule and simply declare we weren't going, after giving her several warnings that she was dilly-dallying instead of cleaning her room (cleaning her room in this way took her about 2 hours, and it wasn't even that bad in the first place! I'm afraid she just got used to doing it in slow-mode during the summer, when it wouldn't really matter to me how long she took as she often did a little each day and our schedule was very irregular!) Oh yeah, this chore schedule is strictly for the school year, by the way!
We have a lot of arguing about who gets to go "first", like who gets to say the supper prayer, who gets in the front seat (we have an older car without air bags), and other stuff dealing with taking turns. I solved the problem this way: Monday is Mona's (Ramona) day, Tuesady and Thursday are Tony's days, That makes Wednesday left for Jacquie, then Friday is Mona and Saturday is Jacquie. Sunday we all say the table prayers together and I pick who goes first based on good behavior. This has worked well for us. Whenever there is any argument about who gets to go "first" it is always decided by who's day it is. They were even arguing who got on the school bus first.
TeresaMom to Anthony (10), Ramona (8), and Jacquie (7)