chores and your tween?

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chores and your tween?
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Tue, 08-01-2006 - 10:41pm

This afternoon I was talking with one of my friends&we were talking about chores..She thought that everything that I make my girls do is alot&that I don't pay them enough..Which to me is alot less than what I used to have to do.


Anyways,what chores do your tweens do&do you give them allowance.If so,how much?


I know that we've discussed this before,but would like a "refresher" course.lol...Thanks a bundle.

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Tue, 08-01-2006 - 10:49pm

Matthew has to do three things a day, two are related to his own space and one is something that helps around the house. He can make $7.50 a week if he does all the chores. The chores rotate each week and I print out a sheet for him. If I come home and check the chores and they aren't done, he doesn't get paid. It's his choice.


Brandon does two things a week for $5

 

 

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Tue, 08-01-2006 - 11:08pm

My 12 & 15 yr olds have to fold and put away their laundry, the dinner dishes/kitchen job is divided in half and they alternate every other night. During the summer they have more time home alone so they have more chores to keep them busy and to remind them that they're not totally on their own! :) Vaccuum stairs and floors, wash cars, mow yard, clean their bathrooms, dust. My daughter is really good at cleaning house when it needs it and my son doesn't mind chores if they're outside. Since they do so much extra they get about $10 week in the summer, but during the school year they only have the kitchen every night and their laundry pretty much. They got about $5 last year.

This year we're considering a significant raise, but giving it all to them at the first of the month and making them more responsible for their own expenses.

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Tue, 08-01-2006 - 11:18pm

Zack has to do the dishes, pick up after himself, take out the garabage, wipe the counters, and def clean his room...if he does these things he gets an allowance of 10 dollars a week..now if say he didnt do it at all , we deduct a dollar , say for not doing the dishes, us asking him again...thats his one..if he does it again, he lose2 dollars...we havent had to talk him hardly, hes tryig to do his stuff just it bein summer he want to playoutside or on the computer...dont get the chores done, you dont to play either(out or in)


destiny is only 7 but she has a few chores and only gets 5 dollars a week, she helps take out the trash, keeps her room clean, and wipe down the dining room table after everyone is done..she also helps me pick up the living room when katelynn goes to bed


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Tue, 08-01-2006 - 11:32pm

Well we took teh summer off, so hopefully I can remember what chores my tween does the rest of the year, LOL!


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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 1:17am

I don't believe in paying for chores, they should do chores because they are part of the family and they receive allowance because they are part of the family.

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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 8:38am

It is so funny that you brought this up. I posted the following on another area of this same messageboard.

"I'm thinking about adding a couple of chores for my son to do. Currently he takes out the trash & about every 3rd day or so, he empties the wastebaskets around the house. He 'cleans' his room & puts up his clothes. He also helps me with emptying the dishwasher, dusting & I even get him to run around with a Swiffer every once in awhile. (We have 2 1/2 inside/outside dogs & I try to do the Swiffer a couple of times a day. Snoopy is a big shedder.) Outside, he helps me with the mowing...which is a big deal because we have almost an acre of land to take care of. I'm thinking about teaching him to wash his own sheets. Then move onto washing some of his own clothes.
What sort of chores do your kids do? I've got one child so he may have a little more to do than some of you that have 2 or more."

Quinn gets $10 a week. I think it's important for kids to receive some money of their own so they can learn how to save & manage money. Currently he has about $200 (maybe more) saved. (Includes b-day money) He will save for those big buck items that he wants. When he was younger, he save enough to buy a trampoline. (Hubby & I sprung for the safty net)

In addition to all that I listed above, he does other stuff that I just ask him to.




Edited 8/2/2006 8:47 am ET by onehappymama
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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 9:22am

I didn't think that I ask too much of her&I'm reassured!Daily Kacie has to pick her room up,put her laundry in the laundry room,sweep kitchen floor&unload dishwasher..Her sister and her rotate every other day on who cleans up the family room&the bathroom.On Sat. they have to dust,vacuum&strip sheets in their rooms..Jessi has to set the table&both have to clear the dishes..They also help as needed around the house,without pay..They've learned NOT to ask for money when I ask them to do something "extra"..Jessi did that one time&she didn't recieve ANYTHING that week..


They get $7.00.If I have to tell them or it's not done by 9:00 they lose a $1.00...The chore list is posted in the kitchen,so they know what to do..They've been doing it long enough,that I shouldn't have to tell them&I won't.Unless,it's setting the table..

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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 11:27am

Hmmm. My post didn't show up. Lets try again.


I wonder if I should be ducking as I'm one of those parents who doesn't give their child chores. She does what she's asked when she's asked (usually) with a minimal of whining. She does not have to do specific things but if I say "feed the rabbit" or "feed the cat" or "take out the recycling" she usually does so with a minimal of fuss. I am not against assigned chores per se, its just not something we've ever done. I didn't grow up that way either. I lived on a farm and you didn't have specific chores, you simply did what you were asked to do when you were asked. If I wasn't busy I helped do dishes, laundry, garden work, whatever needed done. That's the way I do it.


I know some friends of mine who clean their house every Saturday morning and everyone has a job to do. Maybe my house would be nice and neat too, but that just sounds so regimented to me. I don't WANT to clean my house every Saturday morning. I hate feeling like I HAVE to do something. I do it when it needs done. I guess my priorities are just not a clean constantly tidy house.


So I think whatever works is great. For us not having assigned chores works and growing up it certainly didn't turn me into an adult who think everyone has to do everything for me.


Kristen does get an allowance. She gets $5 a week but its not tied to chores. Chores and helping out are just a part of being in the family. I don't get paid for cooking dinner and laundry. Our family income is family income. I can't imagine a husband only giving his wife spending money if she cleaned the toilets that week. I share my income with my child as I did with my ex when he was a SAHD. Obviously giving him greater discretion. LOL The only thing her allowance is tied to is attitude. If she were to be particularly snarky or do something like swear at me, then no allowance, but that hasn't happened in a very long time.


Like I said, this works for us, but if I had 3 kids and a husband I might change my mind.

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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 11:45am

Kayleigh has chores and typically gets $2 per week allowance. These two things are not related.

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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 12:19pm

My dc get a weekly allowance of $5 each. They each have one assigned household chore per day and they are responsible for making their beds (daily) and cleaning their rooms (weekly). Since we homeschool, their weekly "chores" list also includes their daily lesson plans. These lists are posted on the fridge and when they complete a task each day I check it off. If they skip or miss something, they can make it up at the end of the day or, if it's a school lesson, they can make it up the next day. At the end of the week, they get docked a quarter from their allowance for each unchecked item.

Their household chores are: dd11 empties the dishwasher & puts away the dishes; ds8 feeds the dogs.

These items I consider to be each person in the household's responsibilities: 1. Daily hygiene, 2. Put dirty clothes in the laundry room daily, sorted by color, 3. Prepare the dining table for meals and clear off/rinse your own dishes & put them in the dishwasher, 4. Fold & put away your clothes after they are washed (usually, Mom does the wash, but sometimes dd does her own). Because these things are simple personal maintenance that everyone should be doing regularly, these items do not count toward or against allowance. But neglecting them can be grounds for consequences and certainly earns a "hounding" from Mom and Dad!

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