Dating???

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Dating???
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Sat, 09-15-2007 - 10:08pm

Hi Ladies,


DD turning 14 in November is starting to have a lot of boys ask her out. I knew it would happen soon because i see the admiring glances she gets from boys her age and much older. She is quite petite for her age but she has filled out in all the right places. I have even had women comment to me on her build, she does not flaunt it she usually wears jeans and t-shirts or sweaters but definitely nothing revealing.


Anyway, there is a boy that she likes. She asked if she could go to the movies with him and i let her go but i drove her there and picked her up. She said they had a lot of fun and chatted quite a bit through out the movie. I waited in the car for her for about 10 minutes until his mom arrived to pick him up and then he walked her to the car. He seemed like a nice boy, he opened doors for her and he didn't even try to hold her hand.


I had my first boyfriend at her age and it was very innocent and sweet but she seems so young. I am just thrilled that she is talking to me about her feelings because she is normally very private but she has really opened up.


I know i can trust her completely, she knows her boundaries and she has a very good head on her shoulders. So i guess my question is at what age would you allow your daughter to date?


Thanks,


Kelly

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Registered: 04-26-2007
In reply to: kellyh33
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 11:30pm
I know they are having it everywhere, but i wouldn't be ok with dating at 14 in a public, well-lit place either!
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In reply to: kellyh33
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 11:36pm
I'm surprised you would be ok with your DD making out with a boy at 14. Making out usually leads to more acts, like touching and oral sex.
I don't think 14 is mature enough to deal with sexual emotions. The relationship usually won't last at this age, and most girls end up hurt because the boy will go on to the next girl and not give her another thought. Maybe girls these days just don't care about that?
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Registered: 04-26-2007
In reply to: kellyh33
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 11:38pm
How do you know for sure your DD doesn't think of having sex?
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Registered: 09-01-2006
In reply to: kellyh33
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 11:56pm
I remember when dh had a conversation with Hannah about her friend from youth group. He said, "I was 14 once and sex was on my mind." I guess he thought about sex at 14. :)




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In reply to: kellyh33
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 12:12am
Making out doesn't "usually lead to more acts" at age 14.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
In reply to: kellyh33
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 7:36am
I don't think that your dd and this nice boy is going to do anything.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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In reply to: kellyh33
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 7:45am

Ekmama, I totally agree with you.

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Registered: 03-29-2003
In reply to: kellyh33
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 8:01am

I don't have any hard and fast rules.

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In reply to: kellyh33
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 8:15am

Marylandcrab, I agree with you.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: kellyh33
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 8:23am

Your whole main concept of not allowing dating till much later is respectable and just fine.


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