Daughters relationships with friend-boys

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Daughters relationships with friend-boys
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Mon, 10-15-2007 - 11:41am

My daughter is 11 and in 6th grade. She has always had boys as friends.

 

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Registered: 08-17-2005
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 11:59am

It seems like about 6th grade when parties that include boys and girls turn into "boy-girl" parties.

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Registered: 08-11-2007
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 12:05pm
No answers really,just what I have done and plan to do.For the most part Gabby has always been a girly girl and to limit the amt of kids at bday parties,we have always invited just girls.Not that there was anything wrong with inviting boys,it has always been just girls.My dd is the same age and is in the same grade as your dd.She does have boys who are friends and she has gone to their b'day parties.One boy pretty much invites a lot of the class,and the boys and girls pretyy much don't interact with each other.I guess if a boy would ask Gabby skating or something I would want to knopw the parents and I would want it to be in a group type setting.Lke you in elementary school I pretty much knew the whole class and all the parents,so it was easier to say yes or no.Now she is in a bigger school and she has a new group of friends

Laura


mom to Gabrielle

 

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Registered: 06-15-2007
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 1:09pm
Nah, don't let one mom's reaction change your way of thinking. One of my DS's really good friends is a girl who sounds a lot like your daughter. They do things together, very innocently, all the time. He also has a little vixen at school who calls him her boyfriend, and while I definitely would avoid letting those two get together much out of school, if it's a big outing in a public place that is well-supervised, I would not think twice about allowing my son to attend a girl-boy party.
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Registered: 08-29-2003
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 2:51pm

Thanks for the responses.


I just dont want these new mothers thinking my kid is a little temptress trying to seduce their boys when that's the furthest thing from her mind at this point. LOL


 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 4:15pm

Chiming in a bit late but I think we do our kids a great diservice when we give the message that the only kind of relationship possible between boys and girls is a romantic one. By forbidding interaction between the sexes we are telling them there is only one kind of interaction. We don't want them pairing off but we won't let them just be friends either.


So I think just do what your DD wants and ignore the rest.

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Registered: 06-29-2001
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 5:43pm

I think that a group event is fine for mixed genders in a public place with a parent to supervise at this age.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 11:37pm

I think there is nothing wrong with it at all!


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Tue, 10-16-2007 - 10:28am

My dd had boys at her 13th birthday party. She has always invited boys to her parties. She knows the boys well and we know their parents.

I don't think your dd is a temptress at all. :)

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Registered: 08-29-2003
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 12:28pm

Thanks so much everyone. I appreciate your insight.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 12:38pm

Okay, here is a perspective from a mom of a son close to your daughters age.

 

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