DD Missing School Bus!

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DD Missing School Bus!
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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 5:51pm

My daughter, who just turned 14, and just started 9th grade, is missing her bus just about everyday. I told her today - if she didn't take responsibility for getting herself up or getting to sleep earlier, we were going to ground her. Her bus comes at 6:55 a.m. My husband gets her up at 6:00 a.m. She says she has to get up at 5:30 a.m to be on time. So we said, fine then set your alarm and get yourself up. She sets her cell phone alarm and sets a clock radio -- and still doesn't get up. My husband ends up driving her to school - and ends up 40 minutes late for his own work. We have a newborn baby and at that time I may have just gotten back into bed for the 2 hour feeding -and not able to function enough to get her up.

Anyone else have these problems with teen? IF so, what did you do to resolve and what were the consequences?

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Registered: 06-29-2001
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 6:32pm

My DD (age 11) is ADHD and has had trouble getting it together in the morning. The few times she missed the bus over the past couple of years, it was because she didn't manage her time properly.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 8:04pm

Sometimes it pays to be a smart alek in these situations! :) I'd set my clock for FIVE AM and wake her up and nag her all the way to the bus stop. I bet after a couple of days of this she'd get the point and start waking herself up! If that's too extreme, set her alarm clock yourself, setting it really loud on music she can't stand. Explain that you will wake her up at 5am every day after missing the bus! The only thing about this is you HAVE to do it if you SAY it!

Denise

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 10:16pm

How frustrating!


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 10-17-2006 - 9:32am
My kids are told if they miss the bus and need a ride, it'll cost them $5 a person.
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Registered: 09-26-2005
Tue, 10-17-2006 - 9:52am
You may want to invest in another clock. (A cheap investment for a piece of mind) Get the kind that is really loud, changes tones & gets louder if it's not cut off within a few seconds. If you can afford it, get her a 'Sonic Boom' one. (hearing impaired clock, that's what I have) Get her to put the clock away from here bed where she has to get out of the bed to turn it off.
I get up at 5:30am, but it doesn't come easy to me. (I'm a night owl) So, I set my clock on the other side of the chest of drawers & I have to get out of bed in order to turn off the clock.
What time does she go to bed? If she well rested, she should be able to get up a little easier.
My son gets up shortly after I do. (He's up by 5:40) Takes a shower, dresses, blows his hair dry, does his face treatment, eats a decent breakfast, brushes his teeth & has time to watch the morning news before he goes outside to catch the bus at 6:33. He is in the bed by 9pm, never later than 9:30.
One more thing...my brother Paul is not a morning person either. When he was in college, he had 3 clocks in his room. One beside his bed that would go off. Another went off 5 minutes later that was on his desk. Then the 3rd went off a minute later & it was on his chest of drawers. The idea behind that one was if he climbed back into bed, he would have to get right back up before he nodded back off. LOL!
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Tue, 10-17-2006 - 2:37pm
Hello and welcome to the board. You got a lot of gr8 advice. I really can't add anything. I just wanted to welcome you to our gr8 board. Please keep us posted on things.
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Registered: 03-27-2005
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 10:48am

I would make her pay for a cab. It's time for her to face the consequences. It's inexcusable for her to expect that her dad will be late for work because of her inability to be responsible.

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stacy

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 4:49pm
My dd has to ride her bike the 2 miles if she misses the bus. I don't care what the weather is either, she hasn't missed it yet!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!