DD's best friend is moving!

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Registered: 10-22-2007
DD's best friend is moving!
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Mon, 01-28-2008 - 10:15am

Hi,


I don't think I've posted here before, but I'm looking for advice. My daughter's friend is moving, and I want to help her through it.


I have a 10 year old daughter, Tee. She is a funny, loveable tomboy. She has many friends, but two best friends.


When Tee was younger, she was extremely withdrawn and quite. Not really shy, just withdrawn. Because of this, she wasn't doing well in school. Becoming friends with a girl named Liz made all the difference in the world for her. Liz is spunky and hyper and as much a tomboy as Tee. Suddenly it was ok for Tee to not like dance class like her other friends, and she could talk about the extreme sports that she loves with Liz. They had cute little plans of opening a monkey zoo, just doing things that the other kids might find a bit strange. They really are soul mates. She totally came out of her shell, talks in school and is doing really well. (Not that I think a child should be another's therapist, this girl is just a great role model and friend for Tee). Well last night, they're talking about terrrain parks on their snowboards, when all of a sudden, Tee's face crumbles. She hands me the phone, and her Dad told me they are moving across the country in a couple of months. Tee is understandably crushed, and I feel so bad for her! She cried half the night away.


How can I help her through this? I am so worried about her not being able to be herself anymore and going back into her shell. She has other friends, even another best friend, but not another Liz.....................


Thank you in advance.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 2:17pm

Ohh man, bless her heart, that is rough!


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Registered: 08-27-2001
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 5:04pm

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that!

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Registered: 10-22-2007
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 5:20pm

I don't know how to respond to two people at once, but thanks for just listening to me. I don't want her to hear me talking about how sad it is for her. I try to tell her they can IM, email, maybe even visit. We have a SIL in the state they're moving to. Plus, Lizzie's grandparents are stil here. I hadn't though of Club Penguin. Great idea! I just love who my girl is becoming, she's such a funky, hippy chic girl, and I don't want her backsliding. Liz said she's not leaving for good until July. Maybe they'll change their minds!


Thanks again!