Did you have sex as a teen? How do you..
feel about that now? Now that you have kids, do you think it was a good idea to have sex as a teen?
I think most women who had sex as a teen are not proud of it and wished they would have waited.
How do you feel about it now?
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I was 17 and while I'm not sure I think it's a "good idea", I do think it's pretty typical. I felt completely ready at the time and didn't look back and wish I hadn't until I was older. I was by far one of the older of the girls I knew to be having sex and frighteningly, I had a boyfriend break up with me when I was FOURTEEN because I wouldn't sleep with him. While I don't hope my kids will have sex as teens, I can only instill self esteem and knowledge in them now and hope that if they do have sex, they will be responsible. I fully remember laughing at my friends' parents who were clueless as to what their little "angels" were up to at the time. I'd rather try to keep things in the open.
Melanie
Well, take it from me, it was good all of you waited until you did.
Let's just say, when you're in high school andworried about boys the ENTIRE time, it's not a good thing.
I was too focused on my now ex husband...and my first boyfriend to really enjoy high school at all.
I regret not having talks with my parents about sex, and I regret having it when I did, and I will try my hardest to prevent my girls from making the same mistakes.
I'm glad you all responded.
I really don't think you will find too many people who had sex as a teen, say it was a good idea.
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Yes, I agree there should be an open line of communication, which there is with us.
they know what i expect...and we've had lots of talks about it.
I was to 21 and engaged (not to dh) when I first had sex. Dh did not have sex until we were married and he was 28!
Linda
mom to
Alex (16), Rachel (14), Matthew (12)
I was 18 and I don't regret it. I was with the boy from 17 to 21. He is a wonderful man that helped me through some difficult times. He got the raw end of the deal I'm afraid. He wanted to get married right after college and I just wasn't ready. He saw my needing more time as rejection and it really hurt our relationship. I ended up moving across the country to do my internship and we decided to go our seperate ways. Ironically, I'm the one that found new love, married and had children and he is still single. I feel badly for him and yes, sometimes I wonder if he'd have been better off without me. He might have met someone in college to be his life partner if it hadn't been for me. However, I had made a good choice in him. We were always uber careful. He helped me through some really tough issues I had (I was abused by a neighbor as a child.) Without him, I would never had been so healthy and ready in my next and final relationship with DH. I can't really be sorry about how things turned out.
I agree that many women regret it. I had friends in highschool that were doing it for the wrong reason with guys even THEY didn't feel safe with. However, I have more faith in my own DD. She's a smart girl with very high self-esteem (and totally earned I might add.) She has shown impeccable taste in friends and has a healthy relationship with her wonderful father. She is surrounded by extended family. We started talking about healthy relationships when she was 3 and announced she was going to marry a little boy in playgroup (we talked about how boys that hit you and take your toys are not marrying material lol.)
I had sex as a teenager.
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