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Do you ever feel like...
| Thu, 11-20-2008 - 12:49am |
you can't relate to your child(ren)? Lately I feel like I just can't understand Evan. We're such different people... Maybe it's a gender thing. I don't know. I always LOVED school. He tolerates it. I'm empathetic to a fault. He needs to learn to think about how other people feel. He likes action, horror, and gory stuff. Me, not so much. I was a nerd in school, he wants to be "cool". I couldn't have cared less about being popular. I love a challenge, he doesn't want to be in a special high school math class next year because he heard it was a lot of homework. I like most healthy foods, he can't stand them. He would live on meat and white carbs if I let him. I really like to sing (I'm not any good at it, but it's fun), he hates to. I like to look neat and pulled together and he likes the "skater look". I like pop music and showtunes, he likes rap and rock. I find it really hard to relate to him. I feel like we have nothing in common. I think sometimes I fight this and try to make him like me instead of appreciating who he is. What do I do?

I am having this struggle also, but with my younger child.
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My daughter and I are like NIGHT and DAY! I am a girly girl. She isn't. I am social butterfly. She isn't. I am very particular about how I look. She could care less.
It bothers me sometimes but she is who she is. I can't change her and the more I try to, the more we fight. It is hard but DH helps me a lot.
Nicole, I could've typed your post!
Only Sherina is the girly girl in our house--I hate wearing dresses, heels & makeup; Sherina loves wearing dresses & frilly stuff & can't wait 'til she's old enough for "real" makeup.
Actually some of it might be age related....my dd Rachel
Going through some of these issues with my 11 y.o. son.
Sometimes I feel like that. I feel like I could be closer to Kurt in general. We are very different on the surface when it comes to things like music and TV etc., but i feel like that opens up discussions for us. For example, he LOVES 70s classic rock and I can't stand it. he always bugs me about it but the other day he asked me what kind of music I like and we had a good discussion about music.
But often I feel like i just don't get teenage boys. I didn't as a teenager and still don't. LOL
I don't know why he says and likes the things he does and I'm just like "whaaat?" most of the time. I think that maybe I'm just better with little kids. I'm trying to do more stuff with him though because even if we don't like the same things, I feel like I need to work harder to have a closer relationship, if that makes sense.