Does you child . . .

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Does you child . . .
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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 3:45pm
suffer from convenient hearing? Sean doesn't seem to hear me when I stand in front of him, look him directly in the eye and tell him I need him to clean his room. He can hear however, when Robert and I are in the next room and whispering because we want to have a private conversation. Is it like this in your home? (What's really scary is that Scott -2½ - is starting to do this too -NOOOOOOO!! LOL)

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Sherrie

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Mon, 07-07-2003 - 9:11pm
Actually, Kevin has auditory processing disorder which is not a 'hearing' problem so much but a 'processing' issue, so he doesn't always 'hear' what we say despite being 'heard' if that makes any sense. Although I think this is typical of pre-teens (and kids in general) I will tell you a few 'tips' that the docs have given me ... As you said, make eye contact; remove the distractions (don't try talking to him when the TV or radio is on.) Have him repeat back to you what you've said to be sure he 'got' the message. Break down tasks into smaller/manageable units (instead of 'clean your room' start with 'pick up the dirty clothes and put them in the hamper.')

If all else fails, keep a chart and tie allowance into his 'listening' skills. Like work on a point system, and give him a point for each time he follows a direction the FIRST time you ask (or even the 2nd) ... take points away when you have to repeat yourself. At the end of the week, he 'earns' an allowance contingent on the amount of 'points' he's earned.

Nancy

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 11:30am
I can't talk to them (Sam in particular) if the TV is on or he's in front of the GameCube. Rachel multiprocesses a bit better than Sam, but he can't focus on what I'm saying if the TV is on. Otherwise, we do fine!

Janet


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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 12:47pm
Thank you for sharing these wonderful ideas!! I printed out your post to show Robert, he'll be thrilled too.

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Sherrie

Sherrie Rainbow

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 1:00pm
Lucky woman!! I've done the 'tv off because mom has something important to say' thing before - with mixed results. Sean's hearing tests out perfectly at the doctor's office, so I know he hears what is being said. Perhaps it is simply that we need to break down instructions a bit more to aid in his comprehension as Nancy suggested.

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Sherrie

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 4:10pm
LOL, My son has been doing that for years and my youngest son (5) is doing it too. My daugther who is 8 doesn't really do it though. Maybe its a guy thing ;), come to think of it my dh sometimes does that too, lol.

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Tue, 07-08-2003 - 5:47pm
LOL!!

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Sherrie

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