Does your child call their friends?

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Does your child call their friends?
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 1:37pm
To set up playdates or even just chat. I am trying to get my DD to call up her own friends to set up playdates. It's like pulling teeth. Because of this she has not been having a lot of playdates. (Unfortunatly there aren't many kids to play with on our street.) My perception is that by this age the kids are setting up playdates themselves. With parents help & approval of course. Is this a reasonable expectation? A few of DD's friends are my friend's children and those I will often still arrange since I am talking with the parents anyway.

What do your kids do? Do you set up playdates? Do they call their friends? With prompting or without promting. My kids aren't big phone people.


Sara & Tim
Diana (Sara 9 yrs, Timothy 5 yrs)

Sara, IVTimothy
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 9:37am
If the kids live in the neighborhood, my kids will call themselves. If the kids they want to play with live outside the neighborhood and there is driving involved and I have to discuss it with the parents, then I call.


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Registered: 06-08-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 12:37pm
Sean's allergic to the phone LOL.

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Registered: 08-20-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 1:26pm
DD sets up all her playdates---and too often if you ask me, LOL!!!

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Registered: 07-11-2003
Wed, 09-08-2004 - 9:26pm
My DD would probably never think to call anyone unless I suggested it. Since school has started this year she has actually asked if she could call someone twice...quite a milestone! She never thinks to call anyone to chat either. She's always ready to talk to someone when they call, but never thinks to call them.

I'm told that socialization is just like anything else, you have to teach it to them. Not being terrible social myself, I find myself trying to teach her things I don't do myself. She seems happy, and if I suggest she call someone, she always thinks it's a good idea, but she doesn't initiate it.

Since I'm a little neurotic, I'm funny about just dropping her off at someone's house, but she is getting more and more friends, and i am getting to know their parents, so I'm hoping she will be a normal phone-attached teenager before long :)


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Registered: 06-08-2004
Thu, 09-09-2004 - 12:59pm

<<. . . . so I'm hoping she will be a normal phone-attached teenager before long :) >>
Make sure you link to this post, so you can remember this sentiment (just in case it changes when she does turn into phone-attached teenager LOL).

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Registered: 08-02-2003
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 12:37pm
DS will call his friend anytime anyplace and if there's no answer, leave a message then go off to play by himself while waiting. We're lucky to have a huge park across the street and a strict vehicle controlled neighbourhood so there's plenty of places to bike and skateboard and rollerblade, and the latest craze, pogo. DS is a very sociable child and when his best friend is busy he will go play with the toddlers next door or the 5-7 year olds two doors down.