Dyed hair: Would you allow your pre-teen

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Dyed hair: Would you allow your pre-teen
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 4:01pm

to dye his/her hair?

Sherrie Rainbow

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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 4:54pm
DS11 has highlighted his hair (using my Touch of Sun) the last two summers, meaning like 3 applications so it'd really be brassy blonde (he's a light brunette). He does it early enough so it grows out by school start in the fall, but enjoys it for the summer. As the color isn't really a 'fake' color (like pink!), it doesn't phase me much; he still gets his hair cut very short every 6 weeks, so I'll take it!

Sue, who is much more into hair dying than tattoos or body piercing! Hair grows back and it's just a temporary 'statement'

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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 5:15pm

I can understand the sun bleached look, and would also approve of it - but the bright pink really got to me.

Sherrie Rainbow

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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 12:34pm
The scenario I imagine in which I let my DD13 dye her hair is this...because she wants to. Now I'm talking some sort of reasonable color here...I'd never let her dye her whole mop bright pink, but I suppose if she wanted the tips dyed red or something, I'd probably let her. Reason: As time goes on and she gets older and "stretches" her wings, I'll probably be finding myself fighting alot of battles. And this is one of those battles that I'll choose not to fight.

Before Thanksgiving, she begged (yes, down on hands and knees) me to let her dye her hair platinum blonde. She's a dirty blonde now and wanted to go back to the color her hair used to be when she was younger. After much thinking, and telling her that once does not mean always, I agreed and she dyed her hair. Since the, she dyed it once more platinum blonde and the last time she dyed her hair, she went up a few shades and it's now just slightly lighter than her original dirty blonde. By the way, she pays for her own hair color out of her $6/week allowance, so it's quite an expense for her.

My feelings about hair color would be quite different is she wanted to dye the whole thing pink. But if she asked (and she hasn't yet) I'd probably allow the tips to be highlighted.

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Tue, 03-09-2004 - 3:53pm
I let my daughter have green streaks in her hair when she was 7. It was one of those wash out in a month kind of things. It's just hair and in the grand scheme of things not something I feel is worth getting all worked up over. She's a great kid whether her hair is brown, green or purple. She can't do it now though because the school she is in has a policy against "unnatural" hair colors.
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Wed, 03-10-2004 - 6:08pm
LOL, I am betting that it was a temporary dye. My kids have blue and purple. My dd who is 9 has dyed her braid blue and purple and my ds who is 11 has dyed his whole head blue. But it comes out in one wash. I have no problem with this temp stuff. It lets the kids express themselves, have fun and comes out when they need to look "normal" As for dying it permantely, no way would I let my child at this age dye it some funky color like that. My ds has had his hair highlighted before as has nearly 3/4 of the boys in his grade. Hardly any girls do this though around here. Kind of odd if you ask me. I guess since girls can do so much more fun stuff with long hair they don't feel the need to change the color so young. The boys think its cool to have blond streaks or lightened. I only let my son do it once in awhile. I don't want his hair damaged with an everytime he gets his hair cut type thing.


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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 3:03pm
Ok, I'm a newbie guilty of lurking for awhile now but I just had to jump in on this topic. My daughter is going to be 11 in May and this topic has already came up. Mainly because of a friend of hers' who's mother allowed her daughter to dye her hair black!! I was just shocked, to me 10 is way to young for something like that let alone the color black. What I told my daughter is that we can discuss this again when she turns 13 or so but not before that, I just feel she is too young. Fortunately she doesnt hang out with this girl anymore because her mother has questionalbe judgement at best.


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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 4:12pm

Hi Tracie,

I'm glad you popped out of lurkdom to respond.

Sherrie Rainbow

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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 7:56pm

I'm also surprised at the youngsters with dyed hair. While ITA that as teenagers, hair is no big deal - it grows out, I think 10-12 is too young, IMHO. They should not be so concerned with their appearance at this age. Frankly, I'd be more concerned about "natural" colors than pink tips, which are just for fun. It's sad to think at 10-12, my child is already disappointed in his/her hair color and wants to "correct" it somehow.

That being said, I would listen to my child's request and reasons for it, and make a decision from there. TG, that hasn't happened!


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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 1:01am
My 10-year-old daughter had this to say,

"If it's a natural hair color, sure, let them do it, as long as it looks good on them. If it's a color that doesn't look good on them, then no way, Jose.

They shouldn't do colors like pickle green or bright strawberry red. They might call you pickle-head or fruit-face."

From Miss Advice

P.S. from the mom: I've taught my Hispanic daughter that unnatural colors (like that orangey-blonde hair on a black or Hispanic woman) is unflattering. Stick to colors that look like ones god would have dished out for you.

Stephanie, CL of the Dating as a Single Parent board: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-p

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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 5:40pm
My daugher just turned twelve, we have put in "natural color" highlights at home for the last couple of years when she requested. For her 12th Birthday my hairdresser gave her real highlights - they look very nice. She has been asking for pink bangs and I told her when school was out we could do pink semi-permanent for the summer. Her 10 year old cousin has light red and black streaks in her hair. Its must be a family thing, another cousin had a purple mohawk back in the 80's and I had one side of my hair short and red in the 80's(I have normal business woman hair now - no fun ;-)). It's just hair - it grows out or fades out. She also wants her nose pierced - but i am putting the nix on that for now.