Ever feel like...

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Ever feel like...
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Thu, 11-01-2007 - 12:35pm

you just want to crawl in a hole and never come out? Ladies, I'm about ready to have a breakdown! Dh's stupid paycheck didn't show up AGAIN! I just can't take this any more!! He's looking for a new job and booking lots of photography gigs but most of them aren't for a few months. He's staying at this job for now because (assuming they're paying the premiums) at least we've got insurance. This is really serious... I'm at the point where I just don't want to do anything. It's all I can do to get up in the morning, take a shower, and get the kids where they need to go. I have no motivation at all! I know I should at least keep the house up and make sure everyone has clean clothes so that home is a refuge but I have a really hard time convincing myself to do it.

Anyone have any advice? I'm thinking maybe I should see if I can find some seasonal work to get us through but I haven't even seen any signs up lately. What (if anything) should we tell the kids?

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Registered: 09-10-2007
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 1:14pm

I'm so sorry. Now, I haven't read much else today, so I have to ask. Did the check that was dated the 31st actually arrive? And then he should have been paid again today, right? Honestly if I were you I would be finding some kind of seasonal job.....tis the season! I would just start hitting up as many retail stores as I could....and bonus, they usually have an employee discount which could help with holiday shopping.


I sure hope that he finds something else that pays well soon, or that this gets all figured out. How di they expect people to work for free?!? Lots of hugs.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 2:11pm
Oh Ami. I can't believe it didn't show up. I don't blame you for being so down. I would tell the kids that money is tight right now because of some "problems" with the accounting stuff at Dad's work. The money is coming but until they fix the problem we're going to have to be careful. If you continue to feel this way I would talk to your Dr. since you have insurance. :-) Maybe you need something to help you through the tough times. As for a temporary job, usually places like Walmart, Target, etc. are always hiring part-time cashiers. Not great pay but it might make you feel a bit more secure to know that SOME money is coming in. Hang in there and I REALLY hope its just a blip and the money will arrive soon. Good luck to your DH on finding a more stable position.

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 3:38pm

Thanks for the hugs!!! I need them. Yes, the first missing check did show up - yesterday. The check from today didn't but I just got an email from dh and at least insurance is paid up for November. It turns out they have a major client that owes them lots of money and until they get that straightened out (no idea when) things are going to be tight. Even though the news wasn't good, I feel better knowing what's going on.

Thanks again!

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Registered: 01-06-2006
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 3:45pm

Thanks Tam!!! The money from the paycheck that he should have received on the 16th showed up yesterday so at least we got the mortgage and some bills paid. He was supposed to get paid again today and didn't. I just got an email from him and insurance is covered but until the major client pays up, not much else forthcoming - no timeframe on that either but at least I know where things stand. Bare minimum spending for now. I can do that!

Thanks for your advice on what to tell the kids. I'm never quite sure where the line is on how much detail to give. Evan likes to know everything and Megan is too young to have to worry so much. Think we'll have to have two separate discussions.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 4:27pm

Oh sweetie--you have to be getting me!


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Registered: 01-28-2004
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 4:58pm
i am soo sorry you are having to do this..... It must be so hard. I have horror stories when I was growing up that i could share. But its not the time or place. Just know this that what ever I went through as a kid I am a better person for it. Take care and if there is anything you need let me know. I would love to help in any way possible.

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 10:42pm
I am glad at least one check came in.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!