Facebook Tips?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Facebook Tips?
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Mon, 10-06-2008 - 8:09am

I have a Facebook -
I just began letting my daughter have one - it makes me nervous tho.

I said I had to be her "friend" on there --- I think I heard that as a TIP - to be able to watch what she's posting.

Are there other ways I can keep a watch on her? Other tips?

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Registered: 09-10-2007
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 8:22am
IMHO, you should have her password as well and it should be known that you may log in

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Registered: 06-15-2007
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 9:04am

I also would just remind her that it is really likely that her Facebook will be seen by other people's parents at some time or another -- and that if one of her "Friends" gets mad at her, they can use what is on her page against her... So she should be mindful of what she chooses to post. I think that is sometimes difficult for teens/tweens to understand.

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Registered: 02-17-2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 9:46am

When you set up the account, remember to set it as private so only 'friends' can see her profile and pictures.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 11:22am
thanks for the reminder about the privacy setting. We set up an acct on facebook for Matt about a week ago - I am going to hack in and change that now ;)

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 12:27pm

Kurt has a facebook. I am on his friends list -- although its sad since he has more friends than I do. He is only allowed to have friends that he knows i.e family and kids from his school.

I don't know his password, but it is saved to the computer so I can log onto it. I have checked it a few times. I would strongly suggest not forgetting about the inbox where people can send messages to each other without it being seen by everyone on the wall.

The other thing I would say is to not just set it to private but if they are uploading pictures, to set each album so that only friends can see them. The default is "everyone" meaning all of facebook. I hate that option and I also don't like the option where friends of friends can see your pictures.

Even I have to watch what I say on FB since my Mom, Kurt and some of his friends are on my friends list. LOL.

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Registered: 10-06-2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 5:59pm

Greetings from a lurker. :)

Since my son got his facebook, I've realized that all kids need to be warned about paying attention to the photos other kids are taking of them in embarrassing or compromising positions. We can keep tight control of our own kids privacy controls but there's not much we can do about what photos their friends post.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 6:28pm

THANKS to you all for all these tips!!!!

They are GOOD Reminders - and common sense -that we all might not necessarily think to discuss w/our kiddies.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 7:48pm
As long as her page remains "private" she can't get unsolicted requests from strangers. I have my DD's password and every now and then I check her friend's list and if I don't know who someone is I ask her. She uses it to share pictures with school/camp friends and some family members. As long as you can get on and see what she's doing I don't think its any worse than any other applications. Every now and then I also check her friends pages to see what kind of pictures are being posted. (I'm one of those nosey parents who would contact another parent if I saw nekkid (etc.) pics of their kids on-line.) But so far I've seen nothing that would cause me concern. Sure, maybe the language they use isn't great but I try to keep it in perspective.

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 12:12am

Some of the girls in Kurt's class have posted some pictures that raised my eyebrows. Nothing really bad, but I've seen sleepover pix where the girls are all in their jammies and some in their bras. And tons of bikini pictures and those "I'm taking pouty pics of myself in the mirror in my room while trying to make my boobs look bigger" pictures.

I don't think they are bad enough to warrant talking to other parents - especially since in the 6 years we've been here, all of 2 parents have talked to me - but I don't think those girls remember that all the geeky hormone filled boys in their classes are looking at those pix too.

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