Facination with peeing - HELP

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Registered: 09-04-2007
Facination with peeing - HELP
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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 10:28pm

Hi
Im am quite embarrassed to be posting about this, but am hoping some of you will have some advice. I have a 14 year old daughter that has recently (over the past 6 mnths or so) developed a fasination with peeing. I was hoping it was just a phase but im not sure that it is.

I have picked up on a few of these incidents:
She had some friends over for a sleepover and they where in her room and I heard them saying no you cant go to the toilet we have to see who can hold on for the longest. A few hours latter I took them in some food and I could tell 1 girls was desperate to pee, I listened at the door for a while and they where saying no one can you ahve to pee your pants - they didnt come out all night and must have all wet there pants.

I have also seen my daughter peeing in a bucket or container in her room...she will also hold till she cant anymore and pee her pants in her room. I have also seen her and her friend pee in there bikinis out on the lawn, they dont just pee they seem to wait until they are bursting and challenge each other to hold on for longer.

I recently found a note she had written to one of her friends saying Dont go to the bathroom all afternoon then we can pee our pants after school.

I dont know whether to talk to her about this as she is obviously trying to keep it a secret but more and more knickers and pants smelling of urine are appearing in the laundry and even though she doesnt think so I am aware of what is going on.

Any advice would be really welcomed
Cheers

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Wed, 09-05-2007 - 12:34am
I've never heard of girls doing this, hum???? I'd definitely have a chat with your dd about this. It's not good to hold it in at all. Best of luck to you.
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Registered: 03-18-2003
Wed, 09-05-2007 - 1:19am

In January a woman died from withholding urine. Maybe this article will scare into stopping the practice.


http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/story/RTGAM.20070114.wwater0114/BNStory/International/home

Linda
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Registered: 09-04-2007
Wed, 09-05-2007 - 6:11am

Hi All

Thanks for the responses I guess I am more concerned with the fact that they are wanting to wet there pants at all.. isnt this odd behaviour? I found a list which im not sure if it is approriate to share but I will delete if it is offensive

List of things to do: (her and her 2 friends wrote this)

Pee in the park on the way home from school
Pee your pants in your room - fully clothed
When you wake up in the morning pee in your bed and PJs
Pee through your knickers and wear them wet all day
Pee your pants at hte movie theatre

Is this odd behaviour?

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Registered: 06-18-2007
Wed, 09-05-2007 - 7:40am
I think it is very odd, but tenagers are odd! I would definately have a talk with her. They could be harming their bladders, and I wouldn't want to wash those clothes!
Maybe even talk to her doctor, he/she may have more info on this!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-05-2007 - 8:28am

Yes, this is very odd.


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Registered: 07-19-2003
Wed, 09-05-2007 - 12:21pm

Given her age (and don't be all freaked out by this) I think it may be that she is finding pleasure in holding pack her urination and then releasing. We all know that if we have had to urinate for a long time and then go to the bathroom that it feels very good to finally release all that urine. It may be that your daughter derives some pleasure in this activity and has further increased her pleasure by making it more daring and more adventurous.

Given that her soiled garments are all over the dirty laundry, it is no longer a "secret" from you. Ask her what is going on and then tell her you are taking her to a doctor to be examined. The issue is that this adventurous behaviour may lead to (painful) urinary tract infections that could affect her long term health.

You may also seek out a therapist for her to speak to about her pleasure in urinating to find out the root cause for this fascination.

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Registered: 09-04-2007
Wed, 09-05-2007 - 5:44pm

thanks for all of the advice, i am going to going and speak to the doctor today and see what info he can tell me then talk to my daughter after school, She doenst just leave her wet clothes in the laundry she will shove them in the machine and put it on, I think she is going to be very embarrassed when I confront her about it.

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Registered: 09-04-2007
Wed, 09-05-2007 - 10:21pm

Hi there

Well today has been an interesting day, i first put a call into our local doctor who put me onto the female nurse she enlightened me that alot of girls experiment around with this mostly in private and not to that extent and there is a numerous website designated to teen and adult women that pee there pants for fun....weird I know, she did express concern of holding in urine and infections etc.

Then the hard part confronting my daughter, i txt her to let her know i was picking her up from school, we went for a drive to a quiet place and i told her we needed to have a chat, then i proceed to ask her if there was anything going on, troubling her, anything she wanted advice about of course she said no to all then I said i know you are playing round with wetting your pants I am concerned this is doing damage to you and want to know why you are doing it.....she totally denied it and said she wouldnt do that, why was i even accusing her of i etc... but when i said a bit more about what i knew it was hard for her to deny it.

After some perssasion she told me that she really liked the feeling of wetting in her pants and peeing in daring places, and that she often didnt hold on till she wet hersel she would just wait till she needed to go a bit then pee her pants on purpose, like she could get to a toilet shes not that desperate to pee, but she said it is better when you hold on for a bit then there is heaps of pee. Her and her friends have made it a rule not to use the toilet at school they pee at lunchtime on the field, when she explained how I was horrified... they take there knickers off and put them in there bag then stand with there feet quite wide apart and just pee, the boys watch and see who can pee for the longest!!!! she then informed me she can pee without getting any on her skirt!!!

I will be speaking to the school tomorrow about this but am lost for what to do....

a counseller or shrink im thinking.....and i thought my daughter was a normal teenager

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 09-05-2007 - 10:27pm

This sounds like misplaced sexual behavior to me. I'd confront her about it, tell her she will now be responsible for washing any clothing smelling of urine, and take her to the doctor. She needs to know that this is unhygienic enough to cause a dangerous infection and the smell alone could make her a social outcast.

It may also help to get her books on sexuality that are appropriate for her age, but I'd wait to see what the doctor says. You do need to deal with this.