Funerals/wakes

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Funerals/wakes
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 10:08am
Do you think 10 yo is too young to go to a funeral and/or wake? Anyone have any experience with their 10 yo?

My aunt died yesterday and my son wants to go. I am sort of hesitant because my sister mentioned that when she went to a wake and funeral as a kid, she had nightmares for some time. My sister isnt going to let her kids go also. Although her oldest is 8 and mine is 10. I am not going to have my 2 youngest go (8&5) but on the fence with the 10yo.

I am torn because I know it will bother him either way. It's not like this can be done again. This is basically his chance to say goodbye.

So what does everyone think?

Thanks Julie

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Mon, 04-14-2003 - 4:47pm
Well, my son didn't go. He decided he was afraid to go. I don't blame him. I was a little disappointed but then while I was at the wake, I realize that he would have never been able to sit for so long. He didn't go to the funeral either. I guess it's for the best. It was harder for us at the funeral, I don't think my son would have been able to keep himself together. That was one of the reasons my son didn't want to go, because he would be crying the whole time.

Anyway, thanks for the help and opinions. Next time I won't have to ask.

Julie

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