Generation SMUG!

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Generation SMUG!
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Wed, 12-10-2008 - 2:25pm

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/3485888/Baby-Boomer-parents-are-breeding-a-Smug-Generation.html


Are you finding that your tween/teen and or their friends are more cocky, smug, confident (whatever word you choose to use) than you

 

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-10-2008 - 5:38pm

It's hard for me to imagine that anyone would be insulted by someone holding the door for them.

My DH is huge on that, and pulling out my chair for me in restaurants, and helping me off with my coat in public, etc. He has taught our sons as well. I know some people consider this sexist, but I don't. As my DH has said: "Women have the babies, the least we can do is hold the doors for them."

Sexist? Well, I think that's just being courteous and a gentleman, and I hope my sons take after their father.

That being said, I always hold doors for strangers, too, and I try and be a courteous driver and let people in where I can.




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Registered: 08-11-2007
Wed, 12-10-2008 - 5:48pm
Gabby is way more polite to other adults than she is to Dale and I so I know she knows how to be polite,even when she questions her teachers on suff she is always very respectful and polite.Gabby calls most adults by Mrs and Mr except fo a few exception My next door neighbor when I was growing up was Patty to me all my life and she is actually Patty to Gabby too,even though she is my moms age.She also calls my Bff and her husband by their first names and her kids call Dale and I Laura and Dale.Howver,with all of her school friends it is Mr and Mrs.Last year when I volunteered to help with gingerbread house at Gabby'school teh one boy in the group was only too happy to tell me how I knew nothing about making gingerbread houses,granted his mom was a cake decorator and he was right,but I really did not need some boy I never meet before telling me I stunk at helping.I can not believe you actually had kids open your pantry looking for cereal,hopfully their moms would be horrified too.When Gab eats at peoples house if she does not like something she just says no Thank-You and she could starve for all I care,but she usually eats something.That said the majority of Gabby's friends are pretty polite to meBut there are a lot of kids who are not.I do know that when Gab is in the play I won't chaparone becasue if some kid I barly know does not listen to me or does something wrong I don't want to be the mom the turns him/her in then everyone would hate Gab for life.I don't mind helping when it is Gab's group of kids,but other than that no way..

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-10-2008 - 7:55pm

ITA with that second paragraph--I seem to remember noticing a change in the way kids responded to adults, even when I was a kid!


For me (remember, I live in the South), I recall one year, a mom was trying to discipline her child in a Winn-Dixie grocery store; that was the first time I recall people reacting negatively & then stepping in, trying to stop the parent!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 12-11-2008 - 10:06am

DH & I think that personally a lot of the kids have a sense of entitlement.

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Thu, 12-11-2008 - 12:51pm

Ah, I found this quote which sums up

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Thu, 12-11-2008 - 7:49pm

Well, I'm officially a late baby boomer (born in 1963), and I don't permit this kind of behavior either. My sense is that it is both cultural (well off and middle class American kids) and regional (we're in the northeast and see lots of this type of attitude) more than generational, although that must certainly play a part.


My parents were born in the 30s and are of the "wash your mouth out with soap if you talk that way" generation. I even remember their *friends* spanking us!

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Thu, 12-11-2008 - 8:03pm

ITA!!

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Registered: 03-07-2008
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 10:45am

Don't get me started! My kids wouldn't dare speak the way some of their friends do. I have no problem asking these friends just who they think they're speaking to!::insert *tone* here::

I think I see a LOT of spoiling kids unnecessarily because parents feel their child needs whatever Suzie down the road has. I got into it a bit with a friend to other day because she thinks we're cruel for setting a spending limit on Christmas. I have 4 kids and a limited budget and I'd rather think long and hard about what I buy than just buy things they won't use to have loads under the tree. My kids know they need to work for things and that there are things you will only get with age(mp3 players and cells to name a few). They have what they need and a bit extra but I refuse to spoil my kids.

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