Girl puberty question

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Girl puberty question
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Tue, 01-27-2004 - 11:01am
I'm the mom of a dd who just turned 8, and have a question of you with girls who are 10 and 11. I'm a little worried about early puberty. My daughter just started wearing deodorant because she needs it (my ds didn't start wearing until age 11, and he was a sweaty jock, but it didn't smell). She is big for her age - 83 pounds, 54 inches tall - has just seemed to be maturing in all ways. Although she does not have pubic or underarm hair or some of the other true signs of puberty, I've been told that when the hormones kick in and the use of deodorant is necessary, it's not far behind. Have some of you been through this? Do your daughters have their period at age 9, 10 or 11?? I have talked with her, so she knows what's ahead, but any advice is appreciated.

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Tue, 01-27-2004 - 11:16am

Hello, I'm glad you found us.

Sherrie Rainbow

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Tue, 01-27-2004 - 1:34pm

Hmm, I am guessing that puberty will be fairly early for you dd, say around 10 or 11, but of course thats just a guess. My ds is the one thats 11, but I do have a 9 year old dd and she has several friends from gymnastics that are a few years older so I have discussed puberty with a lot of those mom's.

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Tue, 01-27-2004 - 3:14pm
Yes...As much as we want them to stay little girls, they eventually grow up. My dd started using deodorant at about 8 or 9 yrs. old. I talked to her about the menstrual cycle at 5 yrs. old...why? because she asked...and would not stop asking until I told her....with all the information out here on T.V., movies and school, why wouldn't she asked "what is that?" After I told her, she just looked at me strange and said.."oh"...never bothered me again about it:)

She started growing first the np before the one breast (right) blossomed, than it starts all over again with the other one (left). They will be lop-sided for awhile before they eventually catch up with each other.(its normal)

I noticed pubic hair at 10 (fully grown), it scared me!!...and then I scared her with my reaction...which was "when did you get that?" and her reaction was "I don't know? I didn't know it was suppose to be here"....poor thing! I explained to her it was normal and she will probably grow hair under her arms and legs also....then I went to my room and screamed into a pillow!!!

That is when I knew the P was coming soon, and it did, about 4 months before her 11th birthday.

Although kids are maturing alot faster then we did at their age, the good thing is that they will be more educated about the changes they are going through, society is more open to talk about it, to help them through these changes. It also help us as moms because we were taught not talk about it........so things like this message board help us, to help our children.

Good Luck!

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Tue, 01-27-2004 - 7:14pm

Welcome! I'm no expert, but until your dd starts growing underarm and pubic hair, just needing deoderant does not mean she's very close to getting her period. Hormones kick in way before periods start, and she may just have this one very early sign. Besides, some individuals just "stink" more than others anyway!


My dd is 11 1/2; no period yet. She has started developing, but no underarm hair yet, so I don't think she's very close. Maybe she'll surprise me, though!


In general, there seems to be a wide range of body types at this age, everything from little girl to early woman!

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:01pm
Hi, I'm new to this board. My DD is gonna be 12 in April. She got her first period in January. She has not had another one since. I'm kinda confused about that. It has been well over a month. Does it take awhile to balance out on a regular schedule?

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:44pm

Hello and welcome!!

Sherrie Rainbow

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 7:48pm

Welcome! My dd hasn't started yet, but as Sherrie said, from what I can remember, it takes quite a while for periods to come on a schedule. I wouldn't worry about it, but if you are concerned, I would call her pediatrician just to be reassured.


Glad you found our board!

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Fri, 02-20-2004 - 8:19am
Good morning, Im so glad someone has posted about periods!!! I got my period at 9 1/2, so I fully expected that my 11 yr. old daughter would get hers early also. W'eve been talking about periods since she was about 7, and she has had all the supplies ready for when she needs them. She started to develop a "figure", slim waist, wider hips...when she was about 8...then all of a sudden we were at the beach and she wanted to change from her wet suit to dry clothes so I was kneeling down holding a towel in front of her bottom half and what do my eyes see??? A full on head of hair- I freaked out, right there on the beach...she was only like 8 1/2-9 yrs. old. So, naturally, I figure the period was right around the corner. But, she hasnt had it yet, although Ive been saying " any day now"!!! She does need to wear deoderant, but I still have to remind her every day...she isnt to the point of being offensive yet ( well, not most of the time), her moods fluctuate like the weather but the one thing I have noticed more recently is that she is very tired very often and I think that that is the precursor to the period. I was told once a few years ago that just before the period fatigue sets in and they want to sleep more. So, although my daughter had all the physical signs of readiness since about 8, she hasnt had a period yet. I guess you just really cannot tell. I wish she would just get it though!!! Other thing is that I had a hysterectomy about 7 yrs. ago so she will be the only one in the house having a period!!!! Poor kid. Anyway, good luck!!!! Stephanie
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Sat, 02-21-2004 - 8:15am
Hi everyone,

I am fairly new here. I have four dd so ask me in a few years and I will be very experienced at this. My oldest will be 10 next month. She started wearing deodorant at the age of about 7. I realized after soccer practice that it was time. She started with underarm hair at 9 1/4, and I almost fell off my feet when I noticed. She has been very moody (mood swings) this past year. She also occasionally gets small pimples around her nose. She has no breast development or pubic hair. Though I can tell it is starting. We recently had the big discussion about her period. It scares me to think she may be getting her period soon because she seems so young. However, she is very mature in my eyes for her age. I think the best advice is to be open with your dd and prepare her with all the information that she may need.

One idea I came up with for my dd is I gave her a notebook and told her to write down any questions she might have and afraid to ask me. She wrote 2 questions and I wrote back. This then turned into an hour long talk about puberty, friends and school with all her concerns.

I hope I was some help.

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Sun, 02-22-2004 - 9:04pm
That notebook idea is terrific! Thanks for posting it.

Janet


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