Hi! First of all, I have 3 kids, daughter 10, Daughter 9, & son 3. My 10 year old has a different father & his parents have completely spoiled my daughter. She can not visit them for even 5 hours without getting gifts. Last time she got a My Scene doll with motor scooter, Bratz calculator, & barbie Uno card game. This was 2 weeks ago & her birthday is in 5 weeks. They buy her season passes to Disney & take her about 8 times or more a year. This is getting very difficult to handle, considering we can't afford to take the other two. (We finally went this past weekend & she felt we should go where ever she wanted to go, having no feelings that it was my sons first time & her sisters 3 time in 4 years) When at Disney they buy her 17.00 hats, 7.00 pins, dolls, charms & charm bracelet. All of this stuff ends up on her bedroom floor or shoved in a corner with trash. She has absolutely no respect for things, or people. I think she hates her sister. She is so completely mean to her. And her sister is a very loving & caring & sensitive little girl. She isn't at all jealous of her older sister, which is very shocking. But my mother feels guilty for her because she doesn't get gifts constantly. So she feels she has to take my 9 year old shopping for clothes, even though she can't afford it, as she just survived cancer & is completey in debt. I have told them not to buy her things except for holidays. But they just don't get how bad it is here. (we live 2 hours away) She doesn't have good close friends, she's too bossy, and too uncaring.
I told my husband that I need to stop the trips to Disney, & gifts, but he says that it won't help, she's already who she is.
I feel it can be stopped & can change. I want her to earn things & feel the sense of accomplishment of getting something she wants. They just give her money & wait on her hand & foot. I need to do something now!!
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.