Has your child . . .

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Has your child . . .
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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 11:31am
started putting some physical distance between you and him/her when in public? Sean has been doing that for a while now, and I don't know whether to chalk it up to the normal "mom and dad are embarassing" that a lot of children go through around this age (I certainly remember doing it with my parents) or if this is another symptom of the attachment issues he has. What's the scoop for your family?

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Sherrie



Sherrie Rainbow

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Sun, 07-06-2003 - 7:08pm
Oh yeah my ds does that. He likes to take a friend a long so he can split from us if possible. Sometimes I find it annoying like he is ditching his family and other times its such a blessing, because him and his brother aren't fighting the whole time ruining the experience for everyone.

Its natural for them to want some independence at this age and I would be more worried I think if my ds was glued to my side at this age.

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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 4:07pm
Sam is definitely *not* into public affection these days. At home, he's inconsistent, sometimes affectionate, sometimes not, which makes total sense to me. It's the right age to start pulling away from mom's kisses and hugs. I still get plenty at bedtime, so it's fine with me. I also insist on some kind of good-bye in the morning, before rushing out the door to get the bus. Sam also closes his door at times now.

Seems like all of our boys are on the same track. How 'bout the girls? Rachel has pulled away a bit less than Sam, but that also fits her personality. She's always been the clingy one ;-) She often seems affectionate in a grown-up way, now. Not sure how to describe that - just the way she says "Thanks, Mom" and give me a kiss.

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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 2:38pm
I'm familiar with these behaviors too. Sean seems to feel that he knows more than I do, or that I haven't considered all the options. I tell him that I just checked the mirror and "stupid" wasn't written on my forehead yet, so I probably knew a thing or two more than he LOL. Love the idea of a brain fairy, lol.

Sean has gotten into that announcement habit as well. Like you, some things I will let him announce like that, others (like snacks) I call him on. Most of the time, his announcements are "I'm going to ride my bike . . . . okay?" other times I just get the straight announcement.

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Sherrie


Edited 7/3/2003 2:40:41 PM ET by cl-iluv_being_a_mom

Sherrie Rainbow

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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 1:31pm
Charlie has started to distance himself in other ways. He still walks with us, but now I am not the mom who knows everything anymore. As a matter of fact, now I know nothing. Hmm. I guess the brain fairy came in the middle of the night and stole my brain!! Anyway, he is making decisions and announcing things instead of asking for permission, and I consider that the same type of thing. They are starting to move away from us. Instead of the conversation going "can I go next door and play?" it's now "I'm going next door to play." I'm trying to make him think about things like dinner times, convenient times to drop in on someone even if they are close friends and live next door, etc. so he'll start thinking about them too. He still has to ask permission for a snack, or to go further than next door, etc.
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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 12:06pm
Ok, that all sounds familiar. Sean has been closing himself in his room from time to time too. We've respected his privacy, unfortunately his little brother doesn't always understand but there's no help for it. We just redirect Scott into other activities that he can do with us or alone. I had to LOL at turning off the music so classmates won't know what you were listening to. I think Sean would if he thought I wouldn't object, since oftentimes we're listening to little kids music for Scott.

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Sherrie

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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 11:56am
Sometimes; well, mostly. I'd say in public it's definitely stand by the side and complain if we're embarrassing him! At home, starting very recently, he's also taken to closing the door to his room on occasion (not often). I guess he's starting to want privacy, which is ok.

As far as like at school, for the last few years he won't let me do/say anything other than 'goodbye' at dropoff; in fact, he'll turn off the radio/cassette/CD player so that no one knows what we'd been listening to on the way there! LOL. Kids.

Sue