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Registered: 02-02-2004
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Tue, 02-03-2004 - 8:46pm
My 10 year old son who is normally very happy and fun is changing. Recently he has started lying, some are just exaggerations but others are down right lies. Last week he tried to steal a toy while at the grocery store with me. I made him return it and apologize to the manager. I also grounded him and took away all entertainment (tv, play station, gameboy, etc.) This week I caught him with a cheat sheet while taking a spelling test (I homeschool my children).

I am at a loss as to what to do. I can talk until I'm blue in the face but nothing seems to help. The problem just keeps snowballing.

When he first started lying, he and I had a long talk. I explained to him that as far as I am concerned lying, cheating and stealing are all in the same category and they all go against everything that I am. Is this growing problem my fault, did I unintentionally plant these ideas in his head?

HELP ME!
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Registered: 05-02-2003
In reply to: mamashortnsassy
Wed, 02-04-2004 - 11:50am

Hello and welcome!!

Sherrie Rainbow

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Registered: 02-02-2004
In reply to: mamashortnsassy
Thu, 02-05-2004 - 10:45pm
Thanks for the advice Sherrie. I didn't even think about the changes he's going through. That could very well be a contributing factor. It's not an excuse but at least I have somewhere to start. Thanks again.......Jill
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Registered: 04-11-2004
In reply to: mamashortnsassy
Tue, 04-13-2004 - 1:06am
My 10-year-old daughter had this to say:

"If he steals and lies to you all the time, try giving him little punishments. If that doesn't work, then try asking him why he's doing it. Or maybe it's a phase he's going through. If it lasts longer than you think it should, you should take major actions like taking away privileges -- like no desserts! (or no electronic games, no friends over, no TV, he has to eat all foods you make (even if he doesn't like it). That should teach him!"

From Miss Advice

Stephanie, CL of the Dating as a Single Parent board: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-p