Help I need advise

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Registered: 05-30-2007
Help I need advise
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Tue, 10-01-2013 - 1:47pm

I got a call from our Youth Pastor and a young boy in our youth group in the 9th grade age 15 in ROTC wants to invite my daughter whom will turn 13 in December to the Military Ball that will take place in late March at that time there will be 2 years age gap and 2 grades gap, but he wants to invite her just as friends because they hang out in the youth group at church totally innocent and I trust him. I issue is SHE IS IN MIDDLE SCHOOL!  I am crazy. I know most 9th graders enter the 9th grade at age 14 and my daughter would be 13, but I feel she would feel ackward with teens in high school.  She wouldn't know anyone other then the boy she is going with. Her Dad said NO but its the Military Ball and she looks so much older thats why the young boy was going to ask her because he thought she was 14 and in the 8th grade.  Ok tell me what you think honestly but be nice................

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Wed, 10-02-2013 - 11:14am
I see you posted this on the teen board also. I am sure they will give you some good suggestions. From my understanding, military balls are not like normal school dances. They are much more formal, if your husband is worried about "things happening" at it. Does she want to go? If you were okay with her going, I would want to meet his parents, and meet him also before going forward with it. Its still almost 6 months away, I would think they'd want to wait til closer to the ball to see if there is someone else he is seeing or interested in at that time, but that's just me.
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Registered: 05-30-2007
Wed, 10-02-2013 - 1:00pm

We know him and his parents from church and they are just friends, he is a sweet boy and its just a friendship. I agree he should wait incase he meets a girl he plans to date.

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Fri, 10-04-2013 - 7:48am

Honestly in a few years that age difference isn't going to seem like much. I mean most people are I know married people older or younger. Its the girls mature faster then boys so as you get into college and young adulthood your daughter may find more in common with a boy a few years older...

Now 13 is a LOT younger but seeing as its a military ball I'd probably be less concerned. Seeing he is only 15, I assume they would be getting a ride from parents. I am pretty sure a military dance would be well chaperoned as well.

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