Help! Im so frustrated!!!
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| Sat, 05-31-2008 - 10:11pm |
Hi. First of all I just dont know what to do or where to start. My 10 yo son is in a really tough situation and I dont know what to do. He has been friends with another child since kindergarten, well over the last year or so, this child has turned into something and someone completely opposite from my son. Apparentley EMO is the new thing and this is what this child claims to be. Well the two have tried to remain friends, however, recently this kid has started getting into a lot of trouble at school and fighting with other kids and I was so afraid he was going to be taking my son with him. I suggested to my son, that maybe he try to guide him in a different direction, well when this did not seem to work, we told him he was not allowed at our home and he was not allowed to hang out with him outside of school(we could not stop him from seeing him at school), the child came into my house several times uninvited , no knocking just walking in helping himself to food and refusing to leave when asked by my son and stealing from us.

If your son is sure he's carrying a knife then the school needs to be made aware for a start. You wouldn't want to have to live with yourself if he stabbed someone and you knew he was armed. It's then up to the school to inform the police and take it from there.
As for posting things, I would encourage my son not to read them. If he gets nothing for it then hopefully it will stop.
Sounds like a very troubled boy. If he comes into your house again and will not leave or takes things then call the police. Maybe have an off the record chat first to let them know what has been going on so they will take it as a genuine call if your son does need to call and respond asap.
Good luck
It is kind of scary because it sounds like that poor boy has no adults really looking out for him and is heading down a bad path. I know you want to handle it carefully so as not to encourage him to seek revenge against your son or your family. But still, you can't just sit back and let it happen, either. Ugh, I see why you are frustrated.
And yes, what he is doing is cyber-bullying. Here is some info that might help:
http://stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/adult/indexAdult.asp?Area=cyberbullying
I agree that maybe if your son just completely ignores him he will stop. But if not and if his grandparents seem like they would be at all receptive, I would consider printing off some of the online stuff and showing them; he should have his computer taken away if that continues. If he is using school internet access to post, the school should be told. If your son has not started summer break yet at school, I would report the knife carrying and the general bullying to the school, too. Hopefully this is just an immediate reaction to the ending of the friendship, though, and it won't continue for long!!
Well school is out now..so there is nothing they can do there . However, my Husband talked to the officials and they gave us the name and number of like a juvenile worker..they said it is online bullying and that we should call her and with what he has wrote it will be enough to have an arrest warrant issued and he will be picked up on Monday. The police know his family and they said it would be a lost cause to talk to grandparents..However, my son says that he would like for us to talk to his grandparents first. So we agreed to talk to the grandparents but we are still calling the social worker. My son is terrifed that he will be called a rat when school starts back and that he will lose his "reputation". And he is hoping that one day they can be friends again.>Im doubting this very seriously tho.
Please let us know what happens!