HELP! MY DD WANTS TO START SHAVING!

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HELP! MY DD WANTS TO START SHAVING!
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 11:56am
HELP! My 10yr old daughter wants to start shaving her legs. She says there are girls at school who are already doing it & now she wants to as well. She has complained that she is self-conscious about the hair on her legs when wearing shorts & dresses. I'm at a loss as to what to do. I tried comprimising and saying I would get one of those shave minimizing lotions, but she balked at that idea.

What age is okay to start shaving? I don't want to act like a mom straight out of the Dark Ages but I think 10 is too young.

Any ideas??

K

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 12:34pm
hello... I don't know what is the average age these days, but I started shaving my legs when I was 10, and that was in 1978! I don't think it was the norm then, but I have dark hair and the hair on my legs is dark as well. My mom compromised with me for a while and would bleach my leg hair, but that was time consuming and didn't satisfy me. Once I turned 10 she gave me the OK. I was not very advanced as far as boys or the way I dressed or anything like that - to me it was just the issue of the hair. I think if she is self-conscious it is OK to let her shave them - just my opinion! Good luck!
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 3:26pm
Welcome, lil_ladyk! I was going to post that I think 10 is too young, but when I read love_my_family's reply, I changed my mind! Now, my answer is a resounding "I don't know"! I feel like it is too young, on the other hand, if she's self-conscious it's not really a big deal, either. My 10yo hasn't asked yet, but if she did, I think I would listen to her reasons and then decide based on that.

Good luck! Glad you found our board, and hope to see you here often!

Janet

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Janet


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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 4:57pm
Hi and welcome! Have you talked to her about what happens after you start shaving? Does she understand that the hair that comes in once you start shaving is coarser(rougher), thicker and often darker and that once she starts shaving it's something she is going to have to continue? If she understands this and is still set on doing it, then I'd let her but with an electric razor. We all know the scars a real razor can leave!

Sherri

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 03-31-2003 - 2:42pm
I went through the same thing with my 10 year old (nearly 11 now). My daughter tends to stand out as it is because of her height and weight, and tends to get teased about her appearance. I decided to let her shave her legs...but not with a normal razor. I bought her a Lady Remington electric shaver. She's used it twice. Apparently not worth her trouble ;) No torn up bleeding legs, and well worth the 15 bucks. I figure in another couple of years she'll ask again and will be ready for the razor. Good luck to you and your daughter!
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Thu, 04-03-2003 - 9:10am
HELLO,

I FINALLY ALLOWED MY 5TH GRADER TO SHAVE FOR THESE REASONS:

1. SHE READ PROFUSELY ABOUT HOW TO DO IT IN THE AMER. GIRLS BODY BOOK.

2. HER LEGS WERE TERRIBLY HAIRY.

3. I WANTED TO BOOST HER SELF-ESTEEM REGARDING HER BODY IMAGE WHICH IS VERY POOR RIGHT NOW.

4. I TAUGHT 5TH GRADE FOR SEVERAL YEARS. I DO RECALL SOME GIRLS SHAVING, SO I DID NOT FEEL SO BAD.

I WAS VERY PROUD HOW SHE HANDLED IT - TOOK HER TIME - VERY FEW CUTS. SHE KNEW EXACTLY WHAT TO DO. IT ALSO ENHANCED A SPECIAL BOND BETWEEN US. I WANT TO BUILD ON THAT FOR THE INTERESTING YEARS AHEAD.

HOPE THIS HELPS. SUCH A DELICATE, EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER, AND WE'VE ONLY JUST BEGUN!

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Thu, 04-03-2003 - 10:52am
Thanks for your BTDT post!

Janet


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Thu, 04-03-2003 - 11:11am
My DD has also asked when she can start shaving her legs, but she is only semi-self conscious about it. I told her to wait until 7th grade....hoping that we can delay the inevitable. She seemed okay that I gave an answer rather than just saying "Absolutely not." I'm trying to make her feel good about herself (which is hard!), but I agree that 10 is too young. The peer pressure is starting but I think we certainly have a say in age appropriate behavior and activities. For the dresses, can she wear nylons so the hair isn't as noticeable? We'll see what happens this summer with the shorts season. That will be another battle....



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Thu, 04-03-2003 - 12:52pm
Thank you all for your opinions. My DD and I talked it over & I agreed to let her shave but she is only allowed to do so on my approval. In other words, it will not be an everyday thing for her. Right now she has gone a week without complaining. I think it just meant so much to know that the hair wasn't there & hasn't shown itself yet. She was aware of all the drawbacks of shaving but decided she wanted to anyway. We'll see how it goes.

Thanks,

K