Home Work Woes

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Home Work Woes
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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 2:27am
Gabrielle has been giving me a hard time about doing her home work since Sept. It's gotten progressivlly worse despite the fact that she has lost points in multiple subjects, the teacher keeps having to send notes home and she got in trouble by the principal. She has no sense of responsibility she doesn't copy down her assinments properly and she procrastinates something awful. She sat in her room the other day for six hours and did't complete one assignment. I don't know what to do I can't keep driving myself crazy and I can't always be on top of her. What can/should I do about this?
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Registered: 11-01-2006
In reply to: trish22297
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:29am

I had somewhat of the same issue with my son earlier in the school year.

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In reply to: trish22297
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 12:09pm
Love the ideas.
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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 1:03pm

You've got some great advice. A place with no distractions for homework, a non-negotiable/non-debatable list of work, positive reinforcement, etc. One thing we do that works pretty well for long term assignments... sit down and have her come up with a list of tasks necessary to complete the assignment in order and how long they might take. Then have her put them on a calendar or in a planner that shows other commitments (sports, church, art classes, doctor and dentist visits, etc.) Then make adjustments to make sure the whole project is completed by the due date. Actually, I have Evan try to finish 2-3 days early so that if something comes up (special swim meet, invitation to a friend's house, need to buy materials, etc.) it's still done on time. Can you tell I did alot of project planning and management in my previous life? hee hee. Have her do most of this herself so she owns it and doesn't feel it's being dictated to her. My ds resisted this at first so we came up with the list of tasks one day, put it on the calendar the next, and started working on the third.

Also, you might want to try setting a timer for 15 minutes and seeing how much homework she can get done in that time. When it goes off, set it again. After so many iterations of this with good but not hurried progress it's time for a break (snack, a little time with mom, etc.)

Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

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Registered: 09-01-2006
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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:22pm

Start taking away privileges. That's what I did with Hannah. She earned her stuff back as her grade went up. She's on track now.

I'm not sure if doing her homework in her room is such a good idea. Too many distractions.

Good luck!!!!! It's a pain being the mother of a tweener. :)

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Sun, 02-11-2007 - 10:24pm
Great ideas!
Do you like to bake or cook? I saw your aviator.
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Mon, 02-12-2007 - 6:43am

Cooking is a hobby of mine.

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Mon, 02-12-2007 - 9:31am
Do you watch Food TV? A few of the girls on this board are faithful watchers. :)
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In reply to: trish22297
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 12:18pm
Oh, yes!

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Mon, 02-12-2007 - 11:20pm
I've tried the timer but with no breaks in between. The breaks might be another way to go. I would like to be able to sit an do each assignment but we're usually under such time constraints. I work nights so I leave before all her homework is done and I need to make them dinner before I go there is just not enough time between when she gets out of school and I leave. So she needs to be relativly responsible for her own work. I put her in her room to do her homework b/c we're in a small apartment and you can see the TV in the living room from the table. I think the next step will be to remove all the toys and gadgets from her room. Thanks for the advice keep it coming every little bit helps!
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In reply to: trish22297
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 6:48am

Does your daughter get any study halls at school or is there any after school program available to her?

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