**HOT TOPIC CHAT...what do u think?**

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**HOT TOPIC CHAT...what do u think?**
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 10:02am

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HOT TOPIC CHAT


Wife Suing the Other Woman


http://www.oprah.com/relationships/slide/200710/rel_20071019_350_110.jhtml


"When Candi discovered that her husband was cheating, she didn't get mad…she got a lawyer.

After finding steamy love letters and racy photos the other woman sent her husband, Candi says she decided to sue the mistress for alienation of affection. She won and was awarded $500,000, but ultimately, she settled for $50,000.

Since most states have no-fault divorce, Candi says she couldn't sue her husband, so she went after the woman who she says actively pursued him.

"I think they first met in a bar out of town and nothing happened, but she chose to send him a Christmas card," Candi says. "He obviously bit, so she kept writing. Initially, she would say things like, 'I know you're married with three children, and we can just be friends, but I really enjoyed meeting you.' Then became more graphic. that she could fly to our town any time, and then described sexual acts she'd like to perform if only they could be together."

Why did Candi decide to take legal action? "At the time, I felt so humiliated and devastated," she says. "It looked like an opportunity for redemption in a way, just to stand up for myself and my family."



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Registered: 01-28-2004
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 10:21am
i guess that is one way to do it. She got more out of the revenge part. I think it was a little extreme but it worked. Or did it? Did she stay with the guy (I did not read it) or did she get a divorce? Divorce is alot harder, okay maybe the money will help but what is her end results?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 11:44am

I think its dumb. The other woman didn't drag her husband kicking and screaming into bed. He WANTED to be there. He is the one who made the committment to his wife. She should be suing him, which I suppose is what divorce can be. Does the money make the hurt go away? I think you have to hold the person you are in the relationship with responsible, not other people. You can't blame someone else for your husband's actions. He is an adult with full brain capacity (I'm imagine she was not married to someone who is mentally handicapped and could be influenced undully by another person).


There is a real "blame everyone else" attitude out there. Look at yourself and your husband to see what went wrong. Stop looking for someone else.

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Registered: 01-17-2004
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 12:55pm
I responded to question on another board, and frankly I love it.
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Registered: 08-29-2003
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 1:25pm

I'm usually pretty ant-litigation because I think it's abused terribly.

 

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 10:38pm
The fact that the woman KNEW he was married and KNEW he had three kids makes me sick--so yes I would have sued the pants off that bimbo and I am glad to hear the wife won!

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 10:42pm
I hear what your saying, but it says she actively pursued him, she was relentless and even mentioned that she knew he was married with kids so they could be friends.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 10:43pm
EXACTLY!

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