How much of a social life

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Registered: 02-26-2007
How much of a social life
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Wed, 03-07-2007 - 2:11pm
Would you allow in this age group?

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 2:30pm

My ten year old's social life consists mostly of her after school activites. She is involved in a lot of things so she stays very busy. She does have a few friends that she goes to their house and they come to our house and the occasional sleepover. I am preetty picky about who she goes with and where she goes. However, she stays so busy with her other activites that she doesn't have a lot of time for getting together just for the fun of it. If she were not so busy I wouldn't have a problem with her doing things that are age appropriate and in a closley supervised place with responsible adults.

I have a 13 year old SD that lives in another state from us and she plays poker at any of her friend's houses and a lot of times no one knows the adults or where the house is. This is the kind of social life I feel is not good for a 10-14 year old.

Tonya

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 2:36pm
I'm not really sure. Its never been an issue so not something we discuss. But she does not go over to friend's houses much (only one friend and then maybe once every 6 weeks), she does not go to sleepovers (they are not big in her circle). She is friendly with kids in her lessons but that's the only time hey interact. In the summer she plays outside pretty much whenever she wants if the other kids on the street our out and sometimes they make plasn to meet at the local park afterschool (rarely). That seems enough for her. She likes her home time by herself as well. I suppose if she started asking to go over to someone's house all the time I'd have to consider what is appropriate, but so far its not been an issue. Since Christmas she's been to someone else's house once. She goes to her Dad's every Friday so Friday night is out for activities and Sunday she has curling lessons and Saturday night we usually stay at home and do something and school nights are out. So she doesn't have much free time to "socialize".

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 2:43pm
I was going ove this with someone the other day. Jackie gets more time than i think. She has friends in the neighborhood she spends lot of time with. She love to ride her bike alot. Then we have the friends that spend the night. It usually consists of one little girl she has gone to school with. Then it ends up four more come over and we have a party. It always happens that way when jackie is at home for the weekend. She has visitation at her fathers two weekends a month.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 5:34pm

Ugh,


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Wed, 03-07-2007 - 11:00pm
Hannah (12) is pretty busy, either at a friends or they are here. She enjoys going to sleep overs and having her friends sleep over too. She plays softball twice a week and is starting indoor soccer in a few weeks. Once a week she goes out to dinner with her dad and then they come home and play video games. She's pretty busy. I think it keeps her out of trouble.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 11:37pm

We feel that socialization isn't important, that socializing with his sister and his dad and I is plenty.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 03-08-2007 - 9:38pm
Does Kristen enjoy the curling lessons? It is something DH would love the girls to pick up. He is a curling fanatic. He is at the Brier from today until Sunday. He even volunteered at the Scott 5 years ago when it was in Kitchener.
Kelly
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 03-08-2007 - 9:42pm
I got a great laugh when i read your first couple of lines!!
Thanks, i needed that.
Kelly
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Registered: 10-09-2004
Fri, 03-09-2007 - 4:47am

I would only allow as much as I know she could handle without getting run down.


She is busy at school and has a great social cirlce there.

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Fri, 03-09-2007 - 8:08am

My son has a couple of friends that he goes by, but I know their parents and sometimes they come to our house. It's mostly on weekends or non-school days. During the summer time I might be a little more flexible on days I don't work since they have no school. He really don't go off much on his own with his friends.

Diana

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