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How often do you question yourself?
| Mon, 02-25-2008 - 10:15pm |
How often do you question decisions you make when it comes to your children?
| Mon, 02-25-2008 - 10:15pm |
How often do you question decisions you make when it comes to your children?
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If you need therapy, I should have the appt. right after yours! :) I do the exact same things. Add the fact that both of my kids were conceived via donor eggs and IVF (and that adds an extra sense of responsibility) and I'm probably certifiably nuts. I feel like I've been given these two incredible, incredible gifts (not that all children aren't but so many people went through so much to bring these two into the world) and I don't dare mess this up!
Sorry to hijack your post... Back to your concerns. I think second guessing yourself is part of human nature especially with something as important as parenting. We're all only human and we all make mistakes. What matters is you're giving her a great role model and you genuinely care about her. Just after Evan was born, my mother wrote me a letter and in it she said, "forgive yourself your mistakes, for he will too". I've never forgotten that. All you can do is go with your gut and do the best you know how. The two of you were brought together for a reason... :)
Cut yourself some slack!!! You're doing a GREAT job Mom!!!
Sign me up for that therapist, too! ;-) I think (hope) it is normal to feel that way. We love these kids more than life itself, and it is an awesome responsibility guiding them to adulthood. I know I have made lots of mistakes along the way. Sometimes I think I should have another baby, because now that I know what I'm doing, THIS time I'll get it right and do everything perfectly... Hahaha. Parenting is not an exact science -- I think as long as the decisions you are making are being made out of love for your child, you are doing a great job!
I believe with this response, it should be group therapy!!
Tam,
Sign me up for the group therapy!
Sherina is not quite old enough to be here, but I do the exact things you posted!
IMO it's totally a mom thing.
Well since misery loves company it's nice to know I'm not alone in my paranoia. LOL
I try to comfort myself in my moments of self doubt by telling myself the same things.... Gianna is doing excellent in school, enjoys her volunteer work, has a great group of friends who I highly approve of, she's a happy kid who appears well adjusted and is well liked by both adults and peers.
Daily.I truly think it is a mom thing.I know dh does not fret over every little descion he makes reguarding Gabby.
Nor does he think that is something he did if she mesbeahaves.This is a big one with me.If she does something wrong or is mean o someone I somehow thing it is something I did,not Gabby just making a bad choice.I worry that I am over protective at times.I worry that I am not strict enough at times,do I spoil her.I can go on and on.I wonder why dh does not stress like this?
You certainly have company.
Laura mom to Gabrielle
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