How would you discipline?

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Registered: 02-12-1998
How would you discipline?
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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 2:27pm
My two sons, 10 and 7, are home with a sitter today. A 16 year old boy. DS, 10, calls me at work and wants to know if he, other ds, next door neighbor can go to McDonald's. I said, "with babysitter". He says Yes.

I don't particularly wanting this 16 year old boy driving my kids around so I said "No, you need to just stay home". I get off at 2:00 p.m.

Son proceeds to slam the phone down on me.

What would you do when you get home? I think that's disrespectful, but he's been doing alot of disrespectful stuff lately. The tone of his voice, raising his voice, etc.

Thanks

conmama

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Registered: 06-08-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 2:48pm

I wouldn't do a specific discipline in this case because I don't anything really "fits".

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 7:57am
Grr, I hate that! I have started to have dd, also 10, start writing essays. She hates that. We are Lutheran, so I have her include which commandments she broke, etc... I have also had her write apology notes. I tell her she better do a good job, or she will re-write it too. These punishments have really driven her crazy.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 02-12-1998
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 8:39am
Thanks for the suggestion. Unfortunately, I didn't have time to read any of them before I left yesterday. I did say to him that I didn't appreciate him hanging up the phone on me. He is to say, "okay, bye". He said he did say "bye", but I didn't hear it. Anyway, I think next time something like this happens, I will talk to him more like you said. He is allowed to be angry and I know that is how he feels, but he has to treat me with respect. I do need to verbalize things with him a bit more and i do like the idea of sending him to his room to think it over. He usually apologized after misbehaving.

Thanks for the advice.

Also, I have had him write letters to teachers before apologizing for talking in class. They hate doing that! LOL!

conmama

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Registered: 08-20-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 11:36pm
Even though this is over and done with now, I think that when you were speaking to him and he said he say bye, etc...I would have said fine and you arne't in trouble now, however take this as a warning and the next time you slam the phone down and are disrespectful on the phone to me then you can consider yourself grounded for a week or whatever punishment works.

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