I am so angry I can hardly see! (long)
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|Thu, 02-19-2004 - 8:05am|
He's been slacking in his homework, etc. Last night I told him to get the garbage ready to take out this morning and he didn't. I noticed his homework wasn't completed. This morning I reminded him of the garbage and got the usual response. He was downstairs eating breakfast and reading the sports page for 20 minutes and we had only 20 minutes left until we had to leave. He had to collect and take out the garbage, finish his homework, finish breakfast, brush his teeth, etc.
I was so aggravated I told him he could finish his breakfast after all this stuff was done. He started on his homework and I said, "no way" you had all last night, get your chores done first this morning. He sat in the family room, clenching his face red and his fist with a grunting noise. Basically a temper tantrum. It made me so mad I told him that he could just forget the homework, he can turn his paper in wrong. That made him so mad he started yelling/crying/throwing a fit. I yelled at him to take out the garbage and he started taking little baby steps. He wouldn't stop so I smacked him on the behind. He still wouldn't move, I smacked him on the behind again. I haven't spanked him in 3 years. He sat on the ground to put on his shoes and was screaming/yelling (nothing in particular, but it was towards me). He threw his shoes. I was a raving maniac by then. I went over and smacked him twice on his forearm and he continued even louder. I shook him by the shoulders yelling at him to stop it. It just escalated for a minute and he was sobbing, I'm hyperventilating.
I have never had a morning like this before.
I told him that he's grounded for a week. I was NOT having him behave that way towards me...ever again. No TV, nintendo, friends over and bedtime 30 minutes early for one week. After that week he can gain one privilege back for respectful, good behavior each week. I just can't ever have another morning like this one.
Please, someone tell me I'm not going crazy. I know I didn't handle this well this morning. I don't like to smack or spank my kids and I usually don't. It's been years since I've spanked him. But I have a temper too, was never verbally disrespectful to my parents and his disrespect just throws me over the edge. I know I need to learn to deal with this before the teen years, especially.