If only I'd known . . . .

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2004
If only I'd known . . . .
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Tue, 09-21-2004 - 3:36pm

Looking back, what do you think was your biggest misconception about being a parent?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2004
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 3:42pm
I think my biggest one was thinking that all those little promises I made to myself would actually turn out the way I thought they should.

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 8:04am
Well, you took my thoughts! I guessed that it would be easier to keep control.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2004
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 11:54am
I don't know about you, but I find it somewhat comforting that I'm not alone in that. LOL

Sherrie





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Registered: 07-11-2003
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 5:40pm
I used to think that kids misbehaved because their parents let them...and I would NOT have kids that misbehaved. Like you said - control!!!

Well, the first DD made me believe this even more...she has been really good (OK, she's 10...talk to me in a couple of years!) Younger DD (age 4) is NOT very good. Everyone else seems to think she behaves OK, but she is really just a completely different personality. I guess I thought I would just have little "me's" who would do what they were told.

WRONG!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2004
Thu, 09-23-2004 - 11:44am
Boy, we sound very similar.

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Registered: 09-13-2004
Fri, 09-24-2004 - 10:51am
I thought it would be much easier. That I would be able to juggle my time and raise my boys this certian way, trips to art museums, the only toys they would have would be learning toys, they would only watch pbs, they would have excellent manners, and that it would be so easy. My biggest misconcption was thinking there was 1 way to do it. And if you didnt do it that way it was wrong. There are a thousand ways to parent and love and there is no one "right" way. I had to learn that my boys are each individuals. Who need to be able to develop there own likes and dislikes. And what looks good on paper (for example parenting books) doesnt always work in application.
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Registered: 06-08-2004
Fri, 09-24-2004 - 12:11pm
Well said, well said.