I'm ticked off

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Registered: 03-26-2003
I'm ticked off
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Thu, 07-20-2006 - 6:52pm
Kristen was invited to a birthday party for a girl who used to live on our street. Well first the invite comes on Sunday for a party on Saturday. Ummm. Kind of short notice. Also its about 45 min. out of town and there is another name on the invite we don't even know.

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Registered: 06-29-2001
Thu, 07-20-2006 - 10:01pm

You know, I don't get it when parents give information to the kids or have the kids convey information without checking with the parent.

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 07-20-2006 - 10:32pm
Goodness what a mess!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 1:09am

I so don't understand why parents give messages to CHILDREN. They are kids not adults.

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Registered: 06-03-2006
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 1:36am
Sounds like boys planning it not adults of a girl. Were you ever close to the mom?
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Registered: 02-23-2006
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 6:53am

I don't blame you for being ticked off. I would be too. She's not very responsible passing messages via an 11 year old.

And btw, I really agree about the mood you'll be dealing with the following day!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 8:43am

No, I'm not close to the Mom. I've only met her a few times on the street. Her DD and mine were at the same afterschool sitter (although they go to different schools) and it was just the kids playing on the street. DD stayed over at their house once I think and once I picked her up at 11:00 as the kids were going to bed. But I don't "know" her. I'm not sure she even knew my name because when she phoned she said "Is this Kristen's Mom", not my name.


Oh well, the guy who is supposed to be driving her out hasn't called. Hmmmm. Surprised? NOT!! I did look it up on the internet where the campground was and even phoned to find out exactly. Kristen will be taking her cell with her so if anything goes wrong or she needs to come home she can call me. Even if its the middle of the night I'll come and get her. I just feel uneasy about it, but I'm sure she'll be fine. However we have to buy a gift and a sleeping bag. I see Walmart has them for $18 so that should do. Sigh.


Thanks for letting me know I'm not completely off base here. I just hate not knowing what is happening. Sets the anxiety in.

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Registered: 02-23-2006
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 9:58am

I'm sorry, although my views regarding this woman haven't changed, my parental gut instinct has, given what you've just said.

You're not close to her and it's at a campground you don't even know (my mistake, I thought this was in their backyard). It sounds as if Kristen wasn't even good friends with this girl. Hate to say it, but this would not be the first parent sending a late invite when another cancels, watching the gift count.

Painful as it might be to a child, I would not be sending my own DD. I personally only allow overnights with people we know very well and there isn't anyway it would happen at a campground at this age given the circumstances.

I'd cancel and make a plan for a really fun night on our own. Kids survive, trust me.

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Fri, 07-21-2006 - 10:49am
I am ) ( this close to cancelling the whole thing. (that was my fingers held close together) I have heard nothing from the person who is supposed to drive them. I am pretty good about letting DD go on sleepovers, she went last year with her summer camp group and I didn't know anyone there. But this is just rubbing me the wrong way. If I don't hear from them I think I will tell her we'll make it a day to do whatever she wants and not send her. I'm playing it by ear at this point.

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Registered: 06-03-2006
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 11:06am
Good for you! When I read that a some guy was coming to pick her up, well that set off alarm bells in my head. Being alone in a car for a drive to a campground with some guy is really not something she should be doing. You don't know this guy from "Adam". If he shows up to pick her up send him on his way without her. That is, if y'all are even home and not off doing whatever you planned to do instead.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 07-21-2006 - 11:34am

Tam,
I totally understand your feelings & I'd react like you. It wouldn't bother my DH tho (we're opposites if you haven't guessed ;-). For instance I'm having Rach's party this Sunday -- most of the people have RSVP'd except for three. So I have given up stressing about it.

But still I don't get why this woman wouldn't consult or give the info to you since you are the one driving. Hello, until Kristen is old enough to get around on her own someone has to arrange transportation right? Gee, talk about clueless.

-- Ang

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