Introduction and (I hope) common concern

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Introduction and (I hope) common concern
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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 6:07am

First off let me introduce myself. I am Dawn, I have 2 beautiful kids Brittany 10 and Jake 5. I am keeping my fingers crossed I will have a positive pregnancy test in about 2 weeks! :)
My daughter is, well both my kids, are very active. lol
My daughter more then my son.
She is and always has been very very bright and early at everything she has ever done.
She is like me she can do anything that is verbal or uses her brain to figure out a problem. BUT she is so uncoordinated it isn't funny! lol
She is the only child that can walk and fall down! It's weird because she can do art wheels from now until next tuesday but she can't walk 20 steps from the kitchen to the living room without falling!
Anyways as she has gotten older I haven't seen her fully undressed for about 6 months or so. Well since my son has become very aware of female body parts we have had to place rules in the house about privacy. (I am a single mom and with my 2 kids)
About 2 weeks ago we were at a friends for the weekend and she went to take a shower. It is just a shower and the way things are placed she couldn't reach everything.
She called for me and I went in and instead of like at home (reaching in and just handing her what she wants) I had to actualy look in. Well I wasn't looking at her just looking for the shampoo and conditioner for her. She screamed and that drew my attention well good god oh mighty! My child looks like she is developed to an age of about 12!
I don't know if this is to much info... but I know there is no menstrual cycle and I know she has no hair anywhere. BUT her breast are more there then I ever thought. She does have bras but now I don't think they are big enough!
We have had the talk about becoming a "woman" and the "sex" talk.
I am ready to run to the middle ages and get a chastity belt!
This is more scary then I ever thought!
I would love to hear from other people that are going through this and how they are handeling it.
Thanks for any advice and encouragment you have,
Sunshinesray, Dawn

P.S. The title to this posts means I hope I am not the only one feeling this way. I hope it is a common concern amongst all mothers of girls... ;)

Edited 3/12/2007 7:30 am ET by sunshinesray




Edited 3/12/2007 7:31 am ET by sunshinesray
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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 10:12am

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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 10:20am

Hi Dawn and welcome to the board.


Like Laura said, it's common.

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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 10:56am
Hi Sunshineray,
Its nice to meet you and welcome. You will feel right at home. My dd is 11 and she is fighting me to wear a bra at this time.....So be happy yours will wear one at least....... I always thought that if i could look at some of the older kids and picture my dd it would help me accept this growing up thing. It has worked out, I suppose if you can picture your dd looking like one of the "older" girls you see then its more acceptable when it finally happens. Try it....... it might help......Take care and hope to see you again soon.
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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 11:14am

Hi and welcome to the board!!! I have a ds (10) and a dd(6 almost 7) and I can certainly imagine myself feeling the same way when my dd gets to be that age. From reading the other posts, you're in good company. It's always hard to see them grow up but I think puberty is especially hard. You've found the right place to help you through these years. This board is full of wonderful people with great advice and wonderful experience to share!!! Jump right in and enjoy the ride! i look forward to getting to know you better!

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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 11:30am
This is very common. Kiana my 12 yr old has bigger breast than a few of my friends. She hasn't started her period yet which I am very suprised on. She has pubic hair and everything. She crossed over at about the 5th grade. She wears a bra for sure! It is hard to see that wow your baby is just growing up.

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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 12:34pm
Yup, it's very normal. I have been surprised how quickly my 10 yo. has been developing lately. Bras have become a regular part her attire now.

Linda
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Alex (16), Rachel (14), Matthew (12)


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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 1:53pm
WELCOME!!Yes,this is a very normal reaction..I remember walking in on Kacie&think my goodness,when did that happen?It seems that they grow out of being little girls&into ladies overnight..Again,welcome to the board.You will find that these are a great group of ladies&wonderful sounding boards..

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Tue, 03-13-2007 - 2:49pm
Welcome to the board. It is frightening how fast htey grow!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 12:19am
Welcome Dawn - We love it when people join us.
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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 5:44am
Thank you everyone for the very warm welcome!
I have to agree I had a shock when I walked in and seen her!
It was very unexpected! lol
Sometimes I just find it hard to let her go and grow up...
I know the time is here but I don't have to like it! hahahaha
Thank you all for letting me know this is a normal reaction, I know we should help guide them into this stage of life gently and with joy....
But it was just hard to think oh my, my baby is no longer a baby...
I hope to get to know you all very well,
Sunshinesray, Dawn