Issues of TV, phone, and the gimmies

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Issues of TV, phone, and the gimmies
9
Mon, 09-29-2003 - 10:48pm
I'm coming out of lurkersville to post this question/poll: How many of you let your child year old have a TV in their room? A Phone?

I have a wonderful 10 year old daughter and a 5 year old daughter. My 10 year old has been PERSISTENTLY pestering me for a few years for a TV in her room. I had a TV in my room growing up, and I watched it A LOT. Of course, I'm 37, and at the time I was growing up, the most obnoxious show I can remember was Three's Company.

Anyway, I am just curious about your experiences with your kids and TV. I very rarely ever watch TV, mostly because I find the shows to be junk and because as a busy Mom I don't have time and would rather read if I did.

To compromise, my DH and I bought a TV and put it in the spare bedroom (the kids' play room which they nicknamed "the tower"). So they have their own TV and get to watch Disney/Nick/family channel.

My 10 year old's best friend for about 5 years is a very nice girl who comes over almost every day. I like her mom immensely, but her mom buys her DD almost anything she wants, and her DD has a mini-TV in her room. She gets toys at the store almost weekly, and it drives my DD insane with jealousy (thus the gimmies).

So I am the mean mom who is constanly saying no and depriving my child of everything! :)

I try to explain to her I will never cave in to the pressure of trying to keep up with the friend's Mom, because I can't and don't want to and that things don't make people happy, love, family and friends and God do.

So, thanks for listening, and I would be interested in any comments and suggestions.

Laura

Laura snowman siggy
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-02-2003
Mon, 09-29-2003 - 11:33pm

Hi Laura,


I'm glad you stepped out of the shadows!!

Sherrie Rainbow

Avatar for suzyk2118
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-30-1997
Tue, 09-30-2003 - 9:41am
Nope; no tv, video games or phone in ds11's room. Pediatrician said NEVER to cave on those things, so we won't. He does have a tv with N64 on it, and our main tv in the den has his GC on it; in fact last night I suggested that the GC go in with the N64 and ds was happy about it...which means I am too because now I don't have to compete with him to use the tv! Not that I would; if I wanted to, I'd bounce him off, but it'll make life easier this way. Anyway, he's not a phone junkie anyway (maybe a 30 second call to a friend) so that one's not an issue yet anyway. He can bring his gameboy into his room, but has a 1.5 hour limit on ANY electronics in a day (and never seems to need it) - tv, video games, gameboy, movies, computer, etc. And since it's been that way since Day 1, he doesn't seem to mind...

Sue




Edited 9/30/2003 9:43:24 AM ET by suzyk2118

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2003
Tue, 09-30-2003 - 5:10pm
Hi Laura!

My ds who will be 10 in December has had a tv in his room for a few years. His grandparents bought it for him for Christmas. Hi tv has the "v" chip in it which allows the parents to pick and choose what their child watches. It will allow Jacob to watch only G rated programs. The others are scrambled. I think that all tvs made today have that chip in it. Otherwise, I wouldn't have allowed it.

Kim
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2003
Tue, 09-30-2003 - 6:45pm
Hello! I'm new too!

My boys share a room and they had a tv a few years back, but I took it out, because they'd watch it when they were supposed to be sleeping. Just recently, as in the last six months or so, they have had it back in their room with no problems. There's no cable or anything in there, so they can only watch movies and the only movies I buy are ones I approve of the whole family watching. They do have a phone in their bedroom, but this is mainly because we have one of those long distance plans and we recently moved across the country and I want them to be able to call the grandparents they left behind whenever they feel like it. They actually don't spend alot of time in their room so they aren't on the phone or watching tv all the time.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
Tue, 09-30-2003 - 9:45pm

Hi, I have 3 boys 6, 8.5 and 11.

Photobucket

Avatar for keke0116
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 6:24am

Well, if you're the mean mom that always says no, then I'm your identical twin ... I'm exactly the same.

Nancy 

<?xml:namespace prefix = v ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:vml" />
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 6:42am
all for your replies, and I look forward to any more! I may just print them all out just to give me reassurance when my DD keeps after me!

I'm glad to know a pediatrician said never to cave on those issues, and I like too the point about pointing out all the other things my DD is fortunate to have.

Laura

Laura snowman siggy
Avatar for cl_janetlh
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 3:43pm

Welcome. Laura! I am also a member of the "Mean Moms Club" ;-) As of now, my feeling is that my children will not have a TV, phone, or computer in their bedrooms. Right now, we are a 2-TV (FR and master BR) family, with 1 computer in our upstairs study. I've learned to "never say never", but I feel strongly that kids should not have privacy when using the computer. The phones are cordless, so they'll end up with phone privacy unless I follow them around. They'll eventually have a TV in the basement they can watch with their friends when they are older. Their GameCube is in the basement, hooked to an old TV that's not connected to the cable. They are only allowed to use the GC on weekends.


Glad you found us and posted this great question! Now I'll read what the others responded...


Janet




Edited 10/1/2003 3:59:35 PM ET by cl-janetlh

Janet


Jewish Family Life

Avatar for cl_janetlh
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 3:53pm

Welcome! Glad you jumped in on this one.


Janet

Janet


Jewish Family Life