I was always worried about raising girls, because I have such a tangled relationship with my mom, but I'm really starting to see the challenges of raising boys, too (At least tonight, LOL)
You want your sons to be tough and able to handle anything, but you also don't want to condition them to be macho or insensitive, so it's a hard balance when they start to get out of that little boy phase, KWIM??
My mom's favorite was my brother, and in a way I think she did baby him his whole life
Now he and his wife are recently split, and he's really struggling to be a father/homemaker/not fall apart and stay strong
And Michael has a good balance, he's very soft-hearted underneath, but has learned to keep that inside a lot (He's very private with his emotions), but it has also been a struggle for him
For example, he deals with so many sad situations at work, and it took him a really long time to learn to deal with that and not bury it so it wouldn't make him depressed
And he's told me stories, like when his sister Monica was born, and he was only 5, he went to stay with his grandparents who were from Italy, and his grandfather took away his favorite bear and told him he was a big boy and needed to toughen up, so he shouldn't have a teddybear anymore, and he told me he secretly cried himself to sleep every night for a long time for his bear (He never got it back!)
I would never, ever, EVER do something like that to my sons to "toughen them up"
At the same time, I looked at Matthew's behavior tonight, and I really think maybe I've babied him too much
I don't know how to handle that healthy balance
Anyway, sorry to go off on this tangent, but I've been thinking tonight about Matthew and my mothering, LOL
I needed to vent on here after his meltdown, so thanks for listening if you read this
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I love the girls' teacher
She's a blessing for Tessa
Tessa now talks (quietly) to her, but Jenna is the only other kid she will talk to
Hey, it's a start. . .
My boys are not teeny, but about average I think
I'm 5'4" and Michael's 6'0" so I hope they get his height, but who knows?
LOL, thanks Brandi ;)
Well, I do have daughters, but just not old enough for this board
I still talk about them, though
OUCH about slamming your finger in the car door!
Breaking my elbow was outrageously painful, as I recall
But I was only in first grade
I fell from the top of the monkey bars
Maybe that's why Matthew still cries at the drop of a hat
At least he doesn't do it at school, but that makes me realize that he can control it if he wants to
I wonder when boys catch up to girls
Maybe 40?? LOL J/K
Michael told me his dad made him feel ashamed for crying when he was little, so he learned to hold it in
I think that's why men have more heart attacks than women (My little theory)
They don't know how to handle emotions, because they are conditioned to repress them
I don't want to do that to my sons, but it can get ridiculous with Matthew
I have no clue about prime rib either, but it sure tasted good!!
Good thing I didn't cook it
I was always worried about raising girls, because I have such a tangled relationship with my mom, but I'm really starting to see the challenges of raising boys, too (At least tonight, LOL)
You want your sons to be tough and able to handle anything, but you also don't want to condition them to be macho or insensitive, so it's a hard balance when they start to get out of that little boy phase, KWIM??
My mom's favorite was my brother, and in a way I think she did baby him his whole life
Now he and his wife are recently split, and he's really struggling to be a father/homemaker/not fall apart and stay strong
And Michael has a good balance, he's very soft-hearted underneath, but has learned to keep that inside a lot (He's very private with his emotions), but it has also been a struggle for him
For example, he deals with so many sad situations at work, and it took him a really long time to learn to deal with that and not bury it so it wouldn't make him depressed
And he's told me stories, like when his sister Monica was born, and he was only 5, he went to stay with his grandparents who were from Italy, and his grandfather took away his favorite bear and told him he was a big boy and needed to toughen up, so he shouldn't have a teddybear anymore, and he told me he secretly cried himself to sleep every night for a long time for his bear (He never got it back!)
I would never, ever, EVER do something like that to my sons to "toughen them up"
At the same time, I looked at Matthew's behavior tonight, and I really think maybe I've babied him too much
I don't know how to handle that healthy balance
Anyway, sorry to go off on this tangent, but I've been thinking tonight about Matthew and my mothering, LOL
I needed to vent on here after his meltdown, so thanks for listening if you read this
I never reached that C cup
When does that happen?
LOL
I will have to go hunt for the picture of Alexis in your blanket in the other thread!
That's a great picture!
She looks like a Christmas angel, LOL
I'll have to get a picture of mine, too
It's one piece though
Funky, but warm
I wore it a lot today
It's 17 degrees out tonight!!
Brrrrr. . .
OK, I'm caught up, I vented, and now I'm going to sign off, LOL
I'm going to go join my hubby in our warm bed
We will either make some heat ourselves, or I will be turning on that heating blanket ;)
I will see you all tomorrow and I hope everyone is having a great night
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