Mean Girls at age 12
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Mean Girls at age 12
| Sat, 01-12-2008 - 12:14am |
Any advice from other parents who have had to deal with similar situations is welcome.
Thank you,
J
Edited 1/25/2008 3:51 pm ET by aprilsun66

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What does your daughter get out of being friends with "E"?
Thank you,
Edited 1/25/2008 3:52 pm ET by aprilsun66
We've had a similar experience with a girl who happens to be the daughter of one of my friends. This girl is a liar, and tends to blow with the wind. If she thinks the popular kids believe one thing, she'll betray her friends to go along. My daughter realizes she can't trust her, but still hangs out with her because she's fun. She's like a snake.
I can relate to this. There's nothing like having an adolescent to drag up all your old bad memories.
Two things to keep in mind: your kid may have similar circumstances, but she won't necessarily experience them the way you did. Her reactions are her own. Second, it's better to ask her how she feels about the situation than to tell her how you feel, as hard as that is.
You know that E is a phony and probably not worth much as a friend, but your daughter will not hear you if you say anything like that. Instead, she'll focus her energy on defending her "friend" to you, which will distract her from seeing her as she is. So ask her, "Are you okay with how "E" treated you?" and then later, much later, "What do you think makes a good friend?" All you can do is get her to think about how a true friend acts and hope she chooses wisely as she gets older.
That must irritate you to no end.
Dear April,
All sound advice. If you do talk about how bad the girl is your daughter
SOrry to hear your DD is going through this; however it is pretty normal tween behavior, ugh!
I think at this age you really have to do a "live & learn" type of approach.
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>>In the meanwhile I'm going to find other things for her to do (with us her parents or her other friends) so that she doesn't feel quite so lonely. I am still open to additional advice if you have any.
My daughter has made a few very good friends through the YMCA. She's 12 but I still have her go there for school breaks and the summer.
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