Middle School ... Ready or Not?

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Middle School ... Ready or Not?
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Sun, 04-27-2003 - 4:35pm
For those parents who's kids will be attending middle school next year, how are YOU feeling about this transition? Are your kids ready? Are you nervous? What are you feeling?

For those who's kids are already there ... what's the best advice you can give to us moms who have kids heading to middle school next year?

Nancy

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Thu, 05-08-2003 - 4:55pm
wow - i am impressed with these schools that go all out to prepare kids for the transition... my daughter is moving to a new school in september and it's been a very stressful process... she's gifted and has been in a gifted class in her elementary and tested for several different programs in several different schools for middle school.. She got into all of them but the one she wanted the most - is the one that NO ONE from her elementary school will be attending. Even so, she wants to go to that one. Fortunately her "best friend" is attending the same school - although it's unlikely that they will have anytime together - since she will be majoring in music and my daughter is majoring in science.

She's amazed me with her lack of fear and willingness to go to this school - which is heads & shoulders above the others in our area - I'm very proud of her and I hope she has an easy transition.

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Tue, 05-06-2003 - 6:41am
Thanks all ... I think I'm probably more apprehensive than Kevin is. The transition itself won't be huge ... the concept anyway. Kevin has been doing 2 full days per week at a different school for a part time gifted program. In that, the kids have 5 different teachers, and they rotate throughout the day (changing classes and teachers) so he is familiar with the concept. For 5th grade, in regular class, the entire class changes from one teacher to the next for each subject, so he already has 4 different teachers + special areas (art, music, PE) to deal with. The difference is that it will be on a much bigger scale. Our middle school is the feeder school for like 6-7 area elementary schools, a few are not in the best areas, and I'm hearing that there are a good amount of fights and such. Ironically, (interestingly?) it seems that the problems lie more with girls fighting girls than with the boys! The counselor for the middle school did come to the elementary school to do a presentation for the kids ... which was quite helpful and answered a lot of the kids' questions and addressed their concerns. Then, they had a 'fair' of sorts showing the different courses and such for the parents. They will have an orientation over the summer, too. The school is literally around the corner from our house, and Kevin is looking forward to riding his bike to school. Middle school starts at 8:50. Elementary school (which Kelli still attends) is at 8:30, and that's when I start work. DH has a more flexible schedule, so he'll probably be more to get Kevin off to school more often ... but there will be times when Kevin will be the last one to leave, having to set the alarm and lock the doors. He's pretty responsible in that area, so that doesn't concern me (too much) although I am grateful that my neighbor across the street is ALWAYS home in the a.m. in case of an emergency, and my office is 2 minutes away.

Nancy

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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 10:22am
Zachary will start middle school next yr. Today the 5th graders are touring the middle school and he seems very anxious about it. I am sure he will have a lot to talk about this afternoon as will I as this is also the yr they have decided they need a stricter dress code at middle and high schools in our district.

I, myself have been nervous about it as he is growing up sooo fast! It will also be a big adjustment as his brother has never went to school without him. Timothy will be in 4th grade next yr so there will be two yrs before he is back with Zachary at the same school. Also due to the rezoning Zachary will be here closer to the house than Timothy will. Timothy will get on the bus earlier than Zach and will get home sooner than Zach. And since Zachary will be in most of the advanced classes he will have more homework, his teacher at the Spring conference said that is the way it is in middle school and high school the advanced kids get more homework and class projects to do. SO I am going to try to enjoy the summer as much as I can before the big changes start. I know it is just part of growing up but watching my kids deal with the same things I did can be trying at times I think all the parents experiencing this need a big (((HUG)))!
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Thu, 05-01-2003 - 4:19pm
Sam and Rachel just finished their first year of middle school, because here they move up in 5th grade (which no one is crazy about, but that's the way it is). The school did a good job of preparing the students and the parents, with visits, presentations by 5th graders who had just been through the transition, etc. They were already used to changing teachers for math, reading, and all their "specials" (art, music, gym, Spanish, etc.), plus teachers swapped classes for social studies and science, so that aspect was not a big change. They were nervous about learning their way around a new, bigger school, but we spent time at school the week before practicing with their locker and seeing where all the rooms were. They use "teams" here, so that the same group of students has the same 3 or 4 teachers for all acedemic subject. So, they had 4 classrooms all next to each other for the first 5 periods every day. They only had to learn their way to the specials rooms, cafeteria, etc.

The transition went very well. I think it was very positive and maturing for them. Our district handled preparing them for the transition well, and their guidance counselor at the middle school spent time with all the students discussing various issues at the beginning of the year.

I wasn't overly nervous, because parents I knew had told me "We were concerned going in, but it worked out fine", so I just held onto that!

Janet

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Tue, 04-29-2003 - 12:50pm
This really isn't a big thing for us because our school is all in one. Preschool through 8th grade is all at the same school. Dd is in 5th this year and will officially be in "middle school" next year. But starting in 5th grade they put them upstairs with the middle school, they have a locker this year, etc. They don't rotate classes but she is pretty much "there" now. The only difference there will be is next year she will rotate between three different teachers rather than the one she has now.

Sherri

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Tue, 04-29-2003 - 10:35am
Our school (one of four that feeds into the middle school) does a phenomenal job of getting the kids ready. They have staff come and talk to the kids at their elementary schools. They had a parent orientation a few weeks back. Last week, they had open house for the families, including hotdogs, etc., plus tours of the school (with staff in the rooms and some activities in some). Next week, the kids take a bus to the school and get tours as a group (sans parents). Later in the month, they'll have some old elementary school alumni presently in 6th grade come and talk to them about what 6th grade is really like at the middle school. Then in August they have a few hours to get their lockers and meet their classmates. School starts the day after labor day, and there's a 3 day '6th grade camp' that is during the week (yes, overnight) where the kids stay and get to know one another. DS10.5 is very eager; his 5th grade teacher, at his last parent-teacher conference, said that was the time she usually warns parents about what their child might need help with to make the transition; she said ds is fine as is. Whew! I'm very impressed, and eager for him to move on as the opportunities look great!

Sue