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|Fri, 05-21-2004 - 8:17am|
Here's the situation:
My 10yo DD is finishing up her second year of violin. She used to love it. In fact, a few months ago her biggest dilemma was that she wanted to play both violin AND flute next year when band becomes an option, but the school said "no, just one or the other."
In recent weeks, she's been complaining that she "stinks." She thinks she's holding back the class and doesn't want to play in the end-of-the-year recital. I talked to her violin teacher, who says she's actually one of the better musicians in the class. I've tried to be encouraging, as has her violin teacher, but she weepily tells me that she doesn't want to play in the recital. I've tried to see if there's some unstated reason why she doesn't want to be in the recital, but haven't been able to get anything else out of her. (It's not stage fright, she's actually quite a ham). She's also making noises like maybe she just wants to chuck violin altogether.
DD has a history of taking up new activities, only to quit them once they get past the introductory phase and start getting into the stage where you need to work a little to advance your skills. I'm wondering if that's what's behind this. At two years, she's stuck with this longer than anything else she's ever tried.
1. Do I insist that she play in the recital?
2. Do I insist that she continue with violin even if she point-blank asks to quit? I don't see how she'll ever get skilled at anything if she always quits as soon as the going gets a little harder. Or will insisting just make her loathe it?
I'd appreciate any advice other folks may have.