my 11 year old says she hates me

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Registered: 03-28-2004
my 11 year old says she hates me
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 1:54am
My 11 year old daughter told me she hates me, again. She has told me this on a couple of occasions in the past, but tonight, I told her I hated her too. I know that I was wrong and will never forgive myself, what do i do now? I think she really and truley does hate me. i do not know where to turn. help!
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Registered: 07-30-1997
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 10:21am
If this is just happening at 11, consider yourself fortunate! My ds said that type of thing years ago.

Anyway, the way to combat it is to say something like, "I don't like what you're doing, in fact, I can even say I hate it (or it drives me crazy, or however you want to get your point across best), but I don't hate fact, I love you very much and always will, no matter what you do." That way the child knows that they are always unconditionally loved even if they're obviously driving you nuts at the time (or vice versa)...

Just my $.02.


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Registered: 05-02-2003
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 10:31am

Sorry you're having such a difficult time right now.

Sherrie Rainbow

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 1:02pm

You got some really good advice I just wanted to add one thing.


I'll hold my head high
I'll never let this define
The light in my eyes
Love myself, give it Hell
I'll take on t