My daughter is alone at school

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Registered: 08-08-2007
My daughter is alone at school
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Wed, 08-15-2007 - 9:14pm
What do I do to get friends (good ones) for my daughter who battles a eye diease depression and being over weight. Today she told me she sat alone at lunch. There were some girls she hung around and they were horrible, they would treat her half way decent then treat her terrible. There is another group of girls who said she could sit with them at lunch, but at lunch time their tables are full.Why can't kids be nice to each other. Right now I want to give her answers and I don't know what to say. The eye diease makes it hard for her to see because of the scarring on her cornea, and whe she was 10 she had a cornea transplant because her cornea thinned out and she had a hole. Six month later a teacher playing a game in school threw out a paper ticket into a crowd of kids and hit my daughter in the eye taking out a piece of the cornea transplant. You would have thought the teacher would have felt bad but she laughed and carried on as no problem had occured.So there is constant depression and sadness she sees a therapist and takes anti depression meds. The doctors this summer told her that another cornea transplant would not stick because of all the scarring on her eye. and on August 28th she has more surgery at Riley Hospital in Indy to cut muscles in her eyes. Friends would help so much but I guess that is not going to happen soon.
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Thu, 08-16-2007 - 1:39am
I would give her some time ,maybe take a self esteem class to booster her own individual image she might be having of herself. Children are so cruel at times, so as most parent know . These are the battle that most kids go through day in and day out. But to be a better parent is to understand the feelings that the child might be experiencing with these issues. How unfortunate she is having this health issue which way beyond her control.
I am amazed at how no teachers have picked up ont his ? Do they know she is having problems with social interactions with the other children? Maybe to get her involved in some program would be a great idea to. My little girl went through this briefly when she first started,but the bulls horns and lions teeth came out and she adjusted just fine. Sometimes you just have to thicken the skin a bit to fit in,but that doesn't mean she does not have a sweet heart . I would set an appointment with the counselor. They usually love to do this sort of work. Take care
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Registered: 06-12-2007
Thu, 08-16-2007 - 7:51am
No answers to your questions but hugs for you and your daughter. These years are hard enough to deal with friends and fitting in without having something that sets you apart from others. And that teacher, urgggggggggggggggggg...
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Thu, 08-16-2007 - 6:52pm
Sorry to hear about your DDs hard time at school.
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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 4:47pm

(((Hugs))) to you and your daughter...you're both going through a really difficult time right now. It is so hard as a mom to see your child suffering! Have you thought about involving her in Girl Scouts? It is an organization that stresses friendship and reaching out to one another (of course, it all depends on the leader - you may also want to volunteer).

My only other suggestion is to make sure the lines of communication between home and the school are clear. If the school is not fully aware of all of the issues your daughter is facing, make an appointment to speak with the guidance counselor and teacher. It also helps if you come to the meeting with suggestions for ways they can help (perhaps some ideas from her therapist).

Good luck to you both,

Monica