Need some input/advise please.

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Registered: 09-23-2003
Need some input/advise please.
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Wed, 03-19-2008 - 1:07pm

Okay, first I believe this is my first time posting here, generally lurking.


Here is the situation that I am seeking some input for..... My parents watch my oldest (6th grade girl) after school. I pick her up the other day and they tell me that a parent came by (someone we have known casually since the girls were 3) with her daughter to speak with my daughter in regards to a situation. They said they did not want to give details as they felt my daughter should be able to talk to me first and advise me of what happened. So, I waited for her to say something - she never did. She is very non-confrontational like me and I suspect she feared getting in some sort of trouble. So, I had to tell her that I knew SOMETHING happened I just didn't know what. She told me what happened - details not what I need advise on. My problem with the situation is two-fold. First I think that this put my parents in a very uncomfortable position that they never should have had to be in - they initially thought it was a social call as the girls have gotten together at their house before. When they realized that was not the case they did not feel it was their place to intervene. My second issue (and biggest)

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Registered: 12-17-2004
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 1:13pm
I think that I would have my daughter get the phone number from the girl and make a call to the parents. I think I would ask them what was up and then give them your phone number to contact you in the future BEFORE aproaching your daughter. Yes, they puts your parents in a situation and you should also make it clear to them to not do that again...


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Registered: 06-27-2006
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 2:29pm
IMO, it is well within your bounds to call that mother, or drop a note. She needn't worry your parents over something like that, and she just needs to be aware of it. I had the same thing happen several years ago when my mom was watching my kids, and we spoke about it and she then knew to either call me or wait until we could speak in person..


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Registered: 09-01-2006
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 4:32pm
maybe call the parents and get there story. I don't think they should have spoken to your dd w/o you there.


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Registered: 06-29-2001
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 6:36pm

I'm not quite clear on whether the parent spoke to your daughter in front of the grandparents?

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