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Fri, 10-24-2003 - 7:50am
Hi everyone,

I am Melissa a SAHM of 3~two dd's ages 5 and 10 (well, she will be on 12/01)and a ds 9 months. I guess it is okay to post on this board since she is so close to 10.

I am lately becoming so frustrated with dd and her attitude~~ it stinks. She is so hateful and moody. I am just wondering if it is an age thing or it is something that I am doing. EVERYTHING seems to make her "roll her eyes" or make a comment come flying from her mouth. I don't know how to handle it. I have taken tv away for 3 days, today being the 3rd day and I am only seeing a slight change. I have tried talking to her and explaining that we don't talk to each other that way, and I have tried taking things, I have popped her butt. Nothing seems to get through. Any input is appreciated.

Thanks,

Melissa

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Registered: 05-02-2003
In reply to: lissa_88
Fri, 10-24-2003 - 11:30am

Hi Melissa,


Welcome to the board -we're glad you found us.

Sherrie Rainbow

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: lissa_88
Fri, 10-24-2003 - 4:11pm

Welcome, Melissa! Yes, moodiness and attitude is common at this age. I can tell you that the attitude problems you described passed quickly for my dd and me, and she's now pretty delightful at age 11, so maybe there is hope (or maybe I'm just lucky ;-)


I do exactly as Sherrie described. When I'm addressed in an inappropriate tone, I try very hard not to snap (tough for me), and to simply say "I can't hear you when you talk to me that way. Try again." or simply "Try again with an appropriate tone, please." I guess she got bored with repeating herself until she got it "right", and it's rarely an issue now. I'm sure it will return and I haven't seen the last of it!


I would also stick with taking away whatever it is that is important to *her*, and returning it after

Janet


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