Newbie w/?'s about 10 yr old DD........
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|Wed, 04-30-2003 - 11:15am|
I have lots of questions about my DD that just turned 10.....1st I am very concerned about her weight. She is 4'10" and weighs about 100 lbs. She wears a 16 clothing in girls, or a 3-5 jrs. Her shoes range from a 6 1/2 to a 7 in women's. She has "rolls" and that "cottage cheese" look.....kids are starting to make fun of her(mainly boys I think) and saying that she takes after me (I have been overweight since I was in about 3rd or 4th grade, same as DD). My grandmother and uncle(both on my dad's side)are/were veyr obese. My grandma weighed almost 400 lbs at one point in her life. So obesity does run in our family. My DD gets angry when I won't let her have something to eat, she always wants a snack before she goes to bed (thank DH for that one, even if she ate 1 hr ago, she thinks she has to have a snack). We noticed that she did not become chunky until after her tonsils and adenoids were removed, and we have had another baby (right after she turned 7). I hate to put her on a diet, but I don't want her to grow up the way I did, being made fun of, very few dates, and hating myself. She plays soccer spring and fall and has since Kindergarten, but that doesn't keep her weight down. Her pedi doesn't seem too worried. Now, she wants to shave her legs, she does have very hairy legs, sometimes I have looked at her legs and think she has dirt on them, but it's her hair! Should I let her shave? She has underarm BO, and started using deo about 3 months ago. She asked for a bra! A padded one at that!! UUUGGHHH!! She is very into boys!! I have discovered (through listening to a phone conversation) that she has a boyfriend, and that they are going together! I told her she could not be going together, since they can't date. She is also sort of playing his feelings along with another boy....long story....but I explained to her that wasn't fair to "J" (her "boyfriend"). That she either likes him or doesn't and needed to tell him the truth. When it came down to it, she likes him, but some kids at school told her he hated her and wanted to break up with her, so she was testing him by "breaking up" to see how he would react!! I don't remember doing things like that at her age!! I know I liked boys, but they didn't like me. I am very worried about her! She is SOOOOOOOO emotional all the time! She thinks she is "messed up" in her head and that she is stupid. She is in the gifted program at school and makes straight A's and has ever since Kindergarten. She is in a girl scout troop, but no real friends from that group. I had hoped that joining a troop a few years ago would help with the move to the new town, but it didn't. I wanted her to find a best friend there, the girls in the troop seem very "clique", they are all friends, bu my DD does not have a best friend within that group. I also find out that alot of them don't inlcude her in things (like bday parties). I am going crazy trying to figure her out. DH and I are ready to take her to a counselor and ship her to a private school! She is mouthy and talks back all the time, total disrespect for us and her 3 yr old brother! Any help is greatly appreciated!