Not the topic I expected

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Not the topic I expected
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 1:34am
to be brought up at a 5 year olds birthday party. My kids & I attending a birthday party for a friend of DS's today. Since my DD (9 almost 10) was the oldest kid I would suddenly find herself hanging around listening to the adult conversation. The 5 year olds were happy enough to play at the playground and bounce in the bounce house but she wuold tired of the little kids and all of a sudden my DD would apear by my side and quietly listen. One of the conversations she listened too was a bit too adult..

One mother is a historian who's particular specialty is rape trials during the 18th century. At one point she discussed a bit about her research. The words rape & virgin were thrown around a bit. The discusion was about the politics and social implications of these topics and only midly inapropriate. It did start my DD wondering what on earth we were talking about. When the subject died down I did make a comment about the subject being a bit "confusing" to my DD and she tried to explain what a trial was to my daughter. I am not sure if she got my point or was leaving the more interesting details for me to fill in.

So since I did have some one-on-one time with DD this evening I asked her what she thought. She was currious what were were talking about... so I did give her a brief description of both words. All I had to do was mention the S*x word and she thought it was yucky and didn't want to discuss it much further. But at least she now knows a very basic meaning of those words. At least I was able to use it as a teachable moment.

What a doozy..

Sara & Tim
Diana (Sara 9 yrs, Timothy 5 yrs)

Sara, IVTimothy
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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 12:24pm
My ds11 was your dd's age at the end of 4th grade when they had 'the film' and 'the talk' at school; he didn't turn 10 til just before starting 5th (now going into 7th; will be 12 next week). They also had a law topic in their g/t class (did mock trials, watched videos, went to witness a trial) and he watched To Kill a Mockingbird, where your particular topics came up. To me, it was the perfect time to discuss it in a nice calm home environment. But ITA...sometimes things sure can catch you offguard!


Edited 8/2/2004 1:41 pm ET ET by suzyk2118

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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 1:57pm
As you noted, it was a great teachable moment but they really can catch you off guard.